Skirt rolling hell!

[Poplinn]

My year 7 (11 year old) is rolling her skirt up just under the bum (no joke) as soon as she gets to school and has it like that when we collect her. I am absolutely appalled and disgusted that the school allow the girls to wear skirts like this and it’s become part of the school culture.

I know girls have always been rolling their skirts up , but to this level is absolutely disgusting. The school have a duty of care and by allowing the older girls to get away with it, they then influence the very young girls in year 7, who are not even teenagers!

My daughter will roll it down around us but as soon she gets to school she hitches it up again. She does this to ‘fit in’ I am appalled and enraged. I’ve sent a complaint to school but I’m still disgusted it’s even going on.

No words.

She's your daughter...

It’s has always been so and will always be so. Grit your teeth and don’t take the bait.

Exactly. If you can’t tell her not to do it then why are you expecting the school to?

Our school has switched to trousers only and I fully understand why.

Buy her trousers?

Welcome to MN Op.

Roll your own skirt up to pick her up from school.

It was ever thus.
I’m 42 and did this. My 12 year old does this.
I assume she’s wearing tights?

Oh please do this!

I’d not be very impressed but it’s not a hill I’d die on. This would be a reverse psychology one for me - the more you appear to care the more stubborn she’ll probably get about it.

Genius

Well it sounds like she doesn’t do it when she’s with parents, she’s asking school to pull her up on it too

I’m surprised you managed to find a school that DOESN’T care about skirt length.

I remember rolling them up because uniform skirts are typically a universally unflattering length and a few inches shorter looked better on almost everyone. It wasn't bum-bearing piecrust frill territory, though. Did you get a response from the school and do you know for sure she's wearing it rolled that high all day? I'm surprised that she doesn't think to lower it at least a bit right before you collect her to avoid consequences if the school isn't bothered but you are?

In any case, at that age she probably isn't buying her own clothes, so either get her uniform trousers (no skirts) or Bridget Jones pants or thick opaque bike shorts to wear under her skirt.

The quicker schools have culottes/trousers as uniform the better. The secondary school I worked in you could see the girls arsecheeks - forever telling them to roll skirts down.

How is this the schools fault? She is your daughter so parent her! Tell her it’s not acceptable and she’s not allowed to do it and if she does it give her consequences

No school wants their pupils rolling their skirts but imagine the uproar if a teacher looked hard enough to comment.
Our school now insists on high dernier tights to make things a bit more decent.

I think they all do it. I see kids walking to buses etc and I want to go and pull the skirt down and I am not their mum's....

I did it, and I was a nerd. My mum just bought me extra thick woolly opaque tights. They’re as opaque as leggings.

Everyone used to hoik their skirts up but now horrifically they’re hoiking them up so high their bum cheeks are hanging out & they’re not wearing tights either. It is truly concerning. I think schools have a duty & I commend the ones that only allow trousers or culottes.

I think you need to be very plain with her about why you don’t like it. @smashinghopeYOU sound unhinged, actually.

Mine does this but she wears little shorts underneath (Nike Pros), they all do, so it’s not obscene. I have no idea what the logic is of wearing a tiny skirt and then shorts but 🤷‍♀️

Would your DD wear these if you got some?

IMO it’s not worth an argument with the school over - save your powder for when there is a real problem.

I rolled my skirt up in the 90s. It’s not a new phenomenon. My mum told me to roll it down so I did but then rolled it up again when I got to school. The teachers told me to roll it down which I did but I then rolled it back up again when they weren’t paying attention. Your dd knows you don’t like it but keeps doing it anyway. If she won’t listen to you and respect what you say about this by not rolling up her skirt, then it’s a bit rich getting annoyed that the school are allowing it as presumably she’s being just as defiant with them. Maybe you should buy her some trousers.

And there are umpteen threads about why are schools so insistent that skirts be X length!

Buy her a pleated skirt. These are more difficult to roll up, as they get quite bulky round the waist 😆

Also buy some nice thick tights, so there is no underwear on show.

I wore my skirt very short at school. So did my friends. We all grew up to be happy, successful women!