Behaviour like a toddler

[Helpamumout1]

My daughter has had a lot of change in her life recently. Me and her dad split up, i have met someone else and she started secondary school so i have cut some slack with her behaviour.
However last night was the straw that broke the camels back and she ended up hitting me, screaming , biting and pulling my hair.
Please tell me im not alone and bringing up a horrible child

Her actions were horrible but she is not horrible. You need to reframe your thinking. She's been through a hell of a lot and from what you've written it sounds like it's happened in a short period of time when her brain is also literally rewiring itself the way it did as an actual toddler. Her behaviour is unacceptable and needs addressing, but it sounds like it's been a long time coming and she needs a lot more support and maybe therapy than she's currently getting.

Thank you i will reframe my thinking. I didn’t even think about her brain rewiring at all . I have arranged some support through school today.

Splitting with her dad is a massive disruption but you getting a new partner in a relatively short space of time is probably even worse for her.

Oh @Helpamumout1shes really not horrible. She’s showing you jist hpw unhappy she is.

What’s the timeframe for splitting with her DF, starting high school and meeting your new DP?