Hi there ,
so I have a 11 year old son , myself and his dad separated when he was 18 months old . Since then we have both moved on and got new partners and both had another child .
my sons behaviour has always been a issue at both homes , but has been manageable but hard work , when he’s at his dads he wants to be with me and when he’s with me he wants to be at his dads . He hates going out anywhere unless it’s for him , and will constantly argue and pick at my 7 year old daughter, just getting at her every little thing she does ect same at his dads. Over the last few years I’ve tried so much with my son spent time with just him, talked to the school ( no issues with behaviour at school) really tried involving him in everything and it just seems like it isn’t enough for him and I feel so drained . He breaks things , swears , abusive to my daughter and lashed out at myself at times . His dads had to physically restrain him from hurting his partner and daughter there too.
at the moment If he’s confronted about his behaviour he runs out the house and I end up having to go track him down . Now it’s causing so much stress on my relationship and my little girl.. when he’s at his dad’s it’s a completely different atmosphere and then he comes back and I find myself so stressed out. ( before anyone starts in no way does this mean I don’t want my son here I’m just expressing how I feel. I will never stop trying with him
and I love him to bits )