Solidarity Please - 11yo DS has turned into Kevin/Perry!

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Any solidarity and words of wisdom from mums who are living with this, or have come out the other side!

My DS is 11 (nearly 12) and this Summer holiday he's turned from a kid happy with a trip to the park/ice cream/scooter, to a Kevin/Perry grump that is refusing to leave the house and most enjoys sitting in the lounge with the curtains shut! He does have ADHD/ASC so I am trying my best to recognise and respect that he needs more downtime than most, but I think hormones are definitely at play too.

Also dealing with mum now being the most embarrassing person in the universe. I took him out the other day and he told me off for 'talking to other people' 😂

I'm trying my best to roll with it, but my its a big change on last year! I've already cancelled an upcoming weekend away as I just can't face parenting outside of my house. HELP!

DS is 13 next week and have the exact same thing happening. When does it stop???

Solidarity. On holiday with an 11 year old and actually he’s largely been okay but needs a lot of time to just hang in the room on his phone/switch. Luckily it’s a fly and flop type holiday but if it was more activity based I think we’d have ended up with endless moaning. It’s making me worried about our next year’s holiday.

We’ve shown DS(13) the YouTube video of Kevin turning into a teenager and also a couple of later ones with Cathy Burke in.

we chose a good moment when all was happy and well and so far it’s given us all an ‘off ramp’ to use if things are getting a bit ‘Kevin’ at home as it hugely lightens the mood of someone can reference it

Pick your battles, and do try not to get too wound up about certain situations. Sometimes it's okay to just walk away and not engage.

I found a book about this very helpful, it's called Get Out of My Life, But First Take Me and Alex Into Town. I'm sure other similar books are available.

Really recommend reading blame my brain at this point!

I need to do this! Maybe I’ll save a few reels in Instagram as he tends to watch videos like that. Agree to wait for a good mood first! 😂

@HamSandwichKillerwe were away for 2 weeks and it was too long. He refused to do more than one ‘activity’ per day so we left him to it!

We’re at a cottage break the last week of holidays, so I’m hoping he’ll transport himself from one sofa to another and then not move! 😂