Hormonal daughter - exhausted

[Rosegarden12]

Hi, after some advice. I have a 12 year old daughter who is really struggling with her emotions and behaviour. I know a lot of will be “typical” but she’s struggling and so am I.

She is yet to start her periods, but has all the symptoms that it’s not far off. She seems to be in almost a permanent state of either really angry and spiteful sometimes without knowing why, then when spoken to about this behaviour becomes very emotional and ends up breaking her heart crying, which obviously makes it upsetting for me. I try to keep calm with it, but it seems relentless at the moment.

I had a calm chat with her last night with her making some changes to her behaviour so that we can all just have a calmer and happier life at the moment. She ended up crying saying she doesn’t know why she’s like it and doesn’t want to be.

My DH has suggested getting a doctors appointment and asking them to do a blood test to check her hormone levels, but not sure if this would be an option.

So, does anyone have any personal experience and have some practical tips for me to help her going forward?

Hello
Currently going through similar with DS12.
Mood swings, can be lovely one minute and downright vile the next plus tearful and very self-conscious. It's flipping hard work and I'm shattered!
I find having firm boundaries helps and sticking to consequences is really important for bad behavior such as rudeness etc. He swore the other day and was really disrespectful towards me so no PlayStation for a week. On the other hand, when he's being kind or helpful etc he will get a small treat.
Make sure he gets plenty of sleep is also a priority at the moment as he's grumpy when tired and makes his emotions more up and down..
No other advice I'm afraid but just wanted to let you know you're not alone

I know what it feels like 😫 hang in there... what is helping mine is talking therapy with a charity (it's also free) she goes once a week and her big emotions have greatly improved - not sure if you can find something in your area? Or maybe ask the GP about it.