Should I move my DD 910 yo to a new school?

[caro58]

My DD is 10 and has never settled at primary school. She doesn’t seem to like the other kids in her class and they don’t seem to like her. She says she really struggles there and no one wants to play with her. The school has given her a counsellor but it doesn’t seem to help. She does various out of school activities but never seems to spend long enough at these to make any friends.

she cries most nights about it - I can’t decide whether to look at switching her to a different school (if I can find a space) or whether that might make things worse for her. Anyone had similar experiences?

I think it would help more if you could make an appointment to speak with the counsellor to discuss how DDi is feeling and what your next steps should be. I don’t think moving schools would help.

@caro58 just wondering how it's going either your daughter, if you moved her or if things have improved? In the exact same situation with my daughter and I'm just torn on what to do!

Hi there,

i decided to speak to her counsellor first, do caught up with him. He spoke more to her and they did some more work on tactics which seemed to help.

over the summer she’s been ok and the return had gone more smoothly than I expected. I’m keeping a watch on her for the moment and will see how she does. I’ve identified a school which could be a good next step so if things go downhill again I’ll out her on the waiting list.

it was good to flag it with the counsellor first though and that seemed to help as he coujd be more targeted . I’m not sure how much she was actually telling him before that.

i hope things work for your daughter. Sending hugs and strength xx

We moved DD for yr6, best thing we have done by a mile!
Her old school had the very unusual situation whereby in a year of 96 children, only 32 of them were girls. They tried to balance the classes and spread the girls out evenly but that meant the DD only really had 9 other girls she spent any real time with and they just didn’t gel.
Her new school has a much more even balance (they also do things like mix the year group for certain classes rather than them being with the same kids all the time) so she’s already made some lovely friends and hopefully gives her time to get established before yr7. I genuinely wish we’d done it sooner