Help a mama out I'm so lost

[BabyBorderline]

My son has found a needle, took it into school and pierced a peer and drew blood with dirty needle and then teacher pricked herself too. I need some serious advice and support.

No-one can can give you advice here

Take the advice from the school, social services and the police

You need to advise your son to not be picking up dirty needles!! They all need to go to A&E for blood tests and possible hep B boosters. Good luck.

Sorry I thought this was for moral support for parents, I was seeking other mums who may have experienced anything similar. I have followed everything, school, police etc. Sorry.

Advice is that the peer and teacher need to seek medical assistance for anti HIV and other meds pronto.
Your son will just need handholding through whatever punishment school give him.

He knows all of this, that's why I was so so concerned. Everyone has been to hospital, I was wondering if mayne other parents have experienced erratic behaviour as every service has interviened I just wanted some mum advice. Sorry again I didn't mean.offence.

All.of the necessary precautions have taken place.

What kind of advice are you after?

I wouldn't call his behaviour ‘erratic’

I was wondering if any other parents have experienced this or something similar and if so how they managed it, I feel.ive made a mistake posting. I didn't know I couldn't reach out about maladaptive behaviour and how to manage and or cope. I'm a single mum.

Maybe erratic wasn't well placed his dangerous/maladaptive behaviour. I'm confident that he does not understand the point (severity) and was curious if other parents have experienced this? As I feel so lost and I know my eldest child is not that way inclined so I'm so taken aback. Thought I'd Search for relatablity before accepting that he may need intervention or psychiatric assessment. Sorry again. Is there a thread to which is more suited for myself?

Of course you can reach out for support. It must be a great shock for you (and yes, also for the other child and for the teacher, before any one suggests I'm drifting off course). It is awful to learn that one's child has behaved irresponsibly or even cruelly. Your son has potentially caused serious damage to the health and well-being of two others, you would be very strange if you didn't feel terrible about it. It is a vanishingly rare set of circumstances, so you will be unlikely to find a parent who has a child who has behaved similarly, but it doesn't mean that we can't empathise with you.

How old is the child that will be the key and where did he find the needle
SS will be in touch have you had concerns about his behaviour?

I'm a single mom too and I'd come done like a tin of bricks. Hopefully you the school and police can scare him into sense.

How old is he by the way?

Hi there,
Just to flag that the troll-hunters on this thread have lost their posting privileges for 24 hours. Apologies, OP, for their less than kindly approach.

How old is he? Does he have any SEN? Does he understand exactly what he has done and that the people he harmed are now going to spend months having to wait to find out if he has given them a life threatening disease? Are the police prosecuting him? Will they prosecute if either of his victims are infected with something. (Unlikely but not impossible.)

FWIW my husband was involved in a needle stick accident a few years ago. It was accidental rather than malicious but absolutely horrific. The stress of it and having to wait and wait to find out made us both quite ill.

This is in pre teens so he is, presumably, young.

Kids do stupid things. They are curious and sometimes that "what would happen if..." Gets acted out. They don't think of the consequences and in fact their brain development is such that they really don't think about the consequences!

Social media and all these videos they see on line plus daft talk goads them in to doing daft things. A stupid conversation at school about "imagine if...." Plus a kid who then wants to seem cool or doesn't see the line being drawn easily becomes a real situation.

It doesn't mean your child is off the rails. It just means they need a very thorough talk about consequences and most likely some looking at what they access online and ensuring robust supervision.

One of dd's friends used to eat and drink half packets of stuff they found in the park etc. completely stupid and very risky. They grew up. Eventually.

Hopefully no diseases will be passed on. Obviously consequences may be different if they are. Thankfully preventative medicine is very effective.

As for police action only they can comment and will depend on the age of your son.

How are you both now @BabyBorderline?