Is this the done thing?

[Sockmate123]

My DS was invited after school today to go to cinema by his friends mum. 2 other children were invited. The Mum said she had promised her DD a treat after finishing up some school tests. Kids are all 11/12. Anyway I said absolutely DS would love to go. She then sends us revolut requests for the £5 for the cinema ticket.
I was a bit taken aback only because when I invite kids for a treat I pay for them. We often have dominoes movie night where we get pizzas and ice cream etc or have taken kids to a local-ish theme park in the past for treats.
I have never asked a parent for a penny but maybe I am the one that's out of touch....is this the general thing now so I know for future! I had given my DS money to buy treats for the group as the Mum had treated them to the tickets or so I thought at the time! Lol
Am I out of touch? 🙈
If someone invites your child for a treat, it means you have to pay to attend is it?
For reference money isn't an issue for the family involved, quite the opposite in fact. But similarly I had no problem paying the £5 but I personally wouldn't have chased parents for it!

Embarrassing. If you invite a child, you pay.

It's one of those things that just varies onthe group. At 11/12 is more about facilitating them going than 'taking' them.

If a secondary school kid was invited to the cinema by their mates then I'd send them with the price of the ticket plus snacks.
I guess the difference here is the mum described it as a 'treat' for her kid, which makes it seem more like a paid for by parents event, like a birthday party for example. Where I wouldn't send my kids with money necessarily for the event itself. But I guess that's her style.

That's what I thought.. she described it as a treat.

Exactly and the child had chosen the time, day, movie...so it was v much their event iycwim... I just thought it was kind of tight.

If someone offered to take my dc to the cinema, I'd offer them the money but would generally expect them to reject that offer. If I was taking the kids, I'd pay for them and not accept any offers of payment.

Having said that if someone did ask me, I'd just pay up and be grateful they were taking them.

She didn't take them, we all met at the cinema and kids went in. We came back then to collect.

@Sockmate123 yeah, I know why you feel that way. I'm presuming she isn't on the bones of her arse broke? Just bear in mind in future all events with this parent/kid will be pay your own way. As they get older there should be much less parental involvement so it should get easier hopefully.

Quite the opposite! I would completely understand if someone couldn't afford it and I hadn't an issue paying if it was a meet up thing but just the wording was made to sound as if it was a treat she waw organising. They had a month long holiday in the States at Christmas and kids in private school, big house etc I just think it was mean and tight tbh

I think it sounds like she worded the invitation wrong.

I would have offered. Wouldn't expect to pay for a birthday (although would be happy to pay). Random outing - always offer.

I had said to my child to cover all the treats. I would always try repay or return the favour so to speak. Like previous poster, maybe she worded it wrong. The other two Mum's felt the same I think although they didn't say it exactly, they implied it. It's done now but I still don't think if I invited her child somewhere in the next couple of weeks that I'd sent her a payment request for entrance to the zoo or whatever

I always pay for children that I invite out purely because I don't want to assume someone's financial position and spend money on their behalf. I send my DC with money so they can buy anything additional, this definitely seems like the done thing here.