12 year old no crushes

[Tiredpanda]

My 12 year old daughter doesn't seem interested in the opposite sex. I remember having crushes at 11. She has already started puberty for a year. We are quite close and open with conversations.

She recently wrote a birthday card to her bestie and wrote 'I love you so much, hope you have a great day'. Is it normal to tell your bestie you love them so much? I've never had a best friend so not sure.

She’s 12 years old! Utterly ridiculous, let her grow up at her own pace

Quite normal imho

I didn't have crushes until I was at least 16. Everyone is different, let her be.

She's 12.
You are being ridiculous.
For goodness sake, let her be.

Should your thread title be 'Is my daughter gay?', OP? FFS.

She's a child ffs. Stop trying to force attraction and adult feelings on her, it will develop when she's ready. And so what if girls or boys.

The card message sounds perfectly innocent for girls friendships at this age.

You'll read this back in a few years and realise how ridiculous it sounds.

1. girls are extremely effusive with how much they love their friends. I love you is used the entire times by girls and teens these days

2. I have a 17 year old DD and none of her friends got into boys (except the odd one) until they were 15/16. It seems to happen later now (which I think is good)

What's wrong with you??

neither my 13 year old or 16 year old girls have had crushes.

I had absolutely zero interest in boys, or anyone at that age. I was a raging nympho by the time I was mid 20s. What's your actual point? Are you insinuating you think she's gay?

Im confused - you are concerned that your 12yo doesnt seem interested in boys (which isnt at all unusual at 12. I wasnt at that age) but you've never had a best friend.
Relationships, all that stuff will happen when shes ready.
Focus instead on your own issues - like finding a best friend!

Actually....... having said that I havent got a best friend myself atm but have had previously. Having a best friend obviously isnt obligatory or necessary etc
But I definitely refocus think you should focus your energies on finding more friends, possibly a best pal - rather than a total non issue in your 12yo.

Would she tell you anyway?
My mother and siblings would have been the last people I would have told - at any age.
Am cringeing at the thought 😳

What a odd thread.

I never had a crush till I was 13.
Too busy, you know, being an actual kid.

Perfectly normal to tell your vest mate you love them too.

Also, why would she tell her parents about her crushes. No way! My parents probably thought I was asexual until I was like, 17.

Thank you all for your messages. I don't think it is wrong to be curious and have thoughts or questions. I came here to get advice, to speak freely without feeling I'm doing something wrong! Yes of course, I will let her be whoever she wants to be which is how I have parented her so far.

Just to clarify, I do have female friends, just not a best friend. Growing up in a house of mostly boys and getting along with male friends easier than female friends is the reason why I raised my question! Maybe I should keep quiet next time! Shouldn't have to explain or be judged.

Thank you. You are the only person who gfered your opinion and didn't make me feel I was being ridiculous, odd etc...

Name change fail ?

I am 40. I have had one crush - my current dh, who I met at 19. I never had urges,no crushes, nothing.

I should add, with my zero crushes, my mum kept asking if I wasgay. For fucks sakes, nothing wrong with being gay, I simply didn;t have any crushes!!

I got that impression too 😏

I didn't have any crushes until I was about 22! Would not worry about it, not everyone gets them or has them in early puberty.

My DD hated boys until she was almost 14 and announced she had a boyfriend. She had never mentioned crushes on anyone before that.

No actually. I have 2 accounts and logged into old one by mistake. Besides when did it matter which user name I use? If you don't have any advise, why comment?!?!

It matters because many people skim through a page to make sure they have read all the posts made by the OP. When you log in /comment as a different person, those posts aren't highlighted.

This seems totally normal to me. I would not worry at all.