AHHH! Smelly 11yo refusing to wash

[BlowDryRat]

DD is 11, hitting puberty and has smelly armpits. It is such a battle to get her to wash. She argues that she doesn't need one, she doesn't have time or she'll have one in later/in the morning. This morning I had to insist that she take her school uniform off again and go and have a shower before school. I have to check her when she comes out of the bathroom to see if she's actually washed or just stood under the running water/not got in at all.

She has antiperspirant deodorant, bar soap and nice toiletries. She enjoys doing her hair and the tween skincare fad. I've told her bluntly that people won't want to be around her if she doesn't wash. She says she doesn't care and it's their problem.

Has anyone had this? How did you get your reluctant child to wash properly?

Bumping for the evening crowd.

Is this a remove the wifi code job?

Her routine needs to change so that a shower every morning is normal. A consequence if she kicks off about it, phone or Wi-Fi is the obvious one.

I had this with mine! I was very blunt about her being sweaty and she just didn’t care or believe me. In the end I ditched the unscented sanex and bought some Palmolive strawberry scented shower gel and insisted on daily showers that seems to be working at the moment but we will see if it lasts.

My youngest DD tried to be lazy when showering. I simple said smell your armpits if you think you’re clean and she was soon showering every morning.
Good luck with it though teenage girls can be challenging. 😀

Going down the additional consequences route may be necessary.

I have to literally do a sniff test to check she's actually washed. I don't understand why she prefers to go through all the rigmarole when it would take 2 minutes to do a quick soap and rinse.

I went through this with one daughter. She had serious body image issues and undressing, seeing herself in the mirror and touching parts of her body she didn't like really stressed her out.
She avoided it all by avoided showering.

I'm not saying that what your DD is experiencing but don't assume she's just being a pain in the ass.