11 year old dd thinks she’s ugly

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I went to retrieve my hairbrush from dd’s room. I was on her desk and I had to move a pile of notes. I swear I wasn’t snooping but I glanced and saw a bit that saw “am as ugly af” and I read it. She thinks she’s ugly.
she’s objectively not ugly. Not anything like. She’s stunningly beautiful and kind and funny and smart and amazing. She’s slim and blonde with massive blue eyes and perfect teeth.
She’s young in year seven so is much younger looking than most of the girls at school and isn’t very developed.
I took her to get her hair cut last week as she’d been asking for a wolf cut and she said she loved it- but the note said she looks ugly.
I don’t know how to help her. I always tell her she looks lovely- but also make a point of telling her positive non appearance stuff too- like how well she’s adapted to her new school or how great she did at gymnastics etc.
she’s already so pretty I can’t think of anything to make her look better- I know parents think their child is gorgeous…but she really is. I couldn’t take her to get her teeth fixed or help her with her skin or anything practical.
I just want to help her confidence and help her so she knows she’s not ugly.
what can I do?

Has she got a mobile phone and social media by any chance?

Yes, she has a phone. She gets the train to and from school so needs to be able to Contact us and we can track her if needed. She does have what’s app as that sees to be how her friends stay in touch. She doesn’t have instagram or Tik Tok and the phone is taken away by 7 every evening. I regularly check it. She does like to look at Pinterest and you tube- but I do monitor. We’ve had chats about how artificial people’s appearances are online with all the filters etc.

I thinj need to talk to her about that. Im sure there’s a book that could help(I cant think of one but maybe some-one else can?)
I remember a stage when I was obsessed with teen mags and thought I was ugly(same age).
If she’s above average she could be getting bullied, especially by boys(beautiful- they will call you ugly, intelligent- stupid).

Maybe she does not like the hair cut or needs to get used to it?
Hope she is not being bullied. Talk to her, say you saw the note. She might want to offload something.
Also, girls do go through rough phases, but in a few months it will be forgotten.

I’m worried about saying I saw the note in case she thinks I’m snooping. Then I think….what if she wanted someone to see it? Do you think it’s best to say I saw it?

Hi. I don't know whether to say you saw the note or not and this is for if your child comes to you but I have found useful stuff in this Insta account in general www.instagram.com/reel/C2ihsQdOS3a/?igsh=N25lODFmdWxkejd0 
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