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Kids in school posting pictures of my son on Snapchat.....advice needed

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Abkbjbjb · 17/12/2023 18:15

Hi so my 11 year old son has diagnosis of ASD, transition to secondary school has been pretty awful since September, he has horrendous anxiety, so hard getting him in to school most days 😢.
Most of the kids in his class are from the immediate area, we aren't really, he got in due to being 'statemented'. So most of the kids know each other or know of each other from primary school.
The kids in my sons class have not been the most welcoming with him, they sound extremely immature and nasty, my son is the most amazing, kindest mature young man who just happens to suffer with anxiety.
My son kept hearing whispers of kids saying we have seen pictures of you....to cut a long story short these kids have found out his dads name, searched for him on Facebook and have screen shot various pictures of my son and are sharing them everywhere and anywhere🤯. They are completely innocent pictures of him on holiday?! They are basically just doing it to be nasty and clearly think he is a total joke. We thought that my husbands social media was completely private but turns out it wasn't (it is now).

He is struggling so much to settle in to this new school so this is all we need!! We do not allow him on social media due to him being slightly vulnerable, don't want him exposed to this nonsense as know it will harm his mental health.
So we approached the school and they were sympathetic, they spoke to a couple of the kids who we knew were involved.....of course they try to deny it🙄. Temporarily delete Snapchat etc etc.

We have just been informed by another pupil that others are sharing in their Snapchat, we have screen shots of the posts with my sons picture in it. Just wondering where we stand with this? Should we report this to the police? Are we over reacting? Obviously I will be contacting the school again in the morning and supplying them with evidence, but just wondered if there is more we can do?
Worried about how far this will all go......only so much my already anxious son can take. Please would love some advice, thank you!!

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Octavia64 · 17/12/2023 18:31

Contacting school is the sensible thing.

I'm not sure it would be a police matter unless the photos are partially nude - I know the police get involved if nudes are being sent around and I suppose if there are pictures of him in swimsuit it might count?

Other than that it is a school matter I would think.

I'm sorry - very difficult situation for your son.

Bobbybobbins · 17/12/2023 18:33

I agree that keep contacting the school is the best thing to do. It's not a police matter I don't think unless it's nude photos or similar.

theduchessofspork · 17/12/2023 18:39

keep at the school - start with the year head but escalate to the head if it isn’t being dealt with

I’d also get advice from one of the anti bullying charities if you think the school are struggling to deal with it.

Marblessolveeverything · 17/12/2023 19:02

Unfortunately if the photos were public then there is no putting the genie back in the bottle.

It isn't a police matter they have broken no law. Hopefully the school have strong anti bullying policies. That is probably your best chance of improving the situation.

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