Pre teen girl getting up early

[Ronnie1234]

I have a 12 year old who has recently decided to get up around 5/5.30 to get herself ready her bus doesn't leave till 8.10 & she generally spends the time getting ready eating & then sat on phone from 7!

Her room is above ours so she wakes me every day! Last night I specifically said my alarm is 6 tomorrow please be respectful of this. But no this morning she's up again 5.30 when asked she said she was curling her hair! She so noisy & it's above my room! I explained I specifically asked her to be respectful of my 6 alarm but I just get sorry ok!

Without resorting back to a gro clock! Any tips please?

um very simple
restrict morning phone usage

on her phone from 7?!! good grief OP. Get her off it. She’s 12.

15 minutes on her phone in the morning

I just wouldn't accept it. She can't be waking up the house. What time does she go to sleep? My dd12 uses heat less curlers (puts it in at night) and means it takes her 1 min to do her hair in the morning.

How long has she been doing this for? If its a recent thing i predict tiredness will catch up with her. My DD did this for a while and soon got fed up

@squeekychicken she has been using Heatless curlers not sure what the obsession is with curling this week!

@Comedycook only this week! Yes I'm hoping tiredness catches up or it's just an off week

@escapethemaze she's not waking to go on phone though just waking getting ready & that's what waking me she ends up ringing her dad who goes to work at 3a.m 🥱

I imagine there's a shift in dynamics going on. Maybe a boy on the scene? Has anyone new started at school that she could be competing in the fashion stakes with?

You say it’s not the phone but if she wasn’t spending a full hour on it after she is ready she would have another hour to sleep. Tell her she can read a book or draw or do something else quietly, she doesng need an hour of screen time before school even starts.

Take away her phone overnight, she gets it back when she leaves for school. Or a bit earlier if she’s respected the rest of the house and not
woken everyone up. She’s old enough that this should be a fairly simple discipline matter surely? Wake everyone up after being asked not
to = suitable punishment?

No phone overnight, surely? She can have it when she goes to school. If she wants to do hair before that, fine, but silently.

I keep the phones until they are ready for school - washed, dressed, breakfast, any make up they want to do (we aren't in UK so no uniform policy), beds made, rooms tidied - they also have to help with morning housework so house is ready for everyone to leave.
Once done they get their phones before the school bus, so usually 15 mins before they have to leave.

she has incorporated over an hour uninterrupted phone use in to why she’s getting up so early.

In any event, if phone usage had bugger all to do with the early waking (but it does!) then it’s still not a healthy start to the day for a 12 year old off to school!

Am I missing something?! A (nearly) teen getting up and getting herself organised with time to spare for school. The stuff of dreams imo. Probably a phase but not the worst one surely!

yes you have missed something! read the OP again

yes you have missed something! read the OP again

And in any case, she almost certainly isn't getting enough sleep. NHS recommends 9-12 hours for a 12yo. Perhaps op should set an earlier bedtime, as well as taking the phone away.