12 Yr old birthday party dilema

[YellowRoses100]

I really don't know what to do.

My daughter wanted a party with a mixture of some of her old mates from primary & new friends from secondary. Now her sister (twin) has fallen out with one of the primary friends. And my daughter doesn't want her to come to the party anymore. They are cordial but no means as close as they were
My DD now wants to tell her not to come.wwyd??

You can’t un-invite someone surely? Manners!

I said that to her too.im worried about her twin and the friend having an argument.

You DD presumably has her number and can I invite her herself! That said what are the chances of her coming anyway?

I would let your DD decide, it's her birthday.

But if she's an old friend from primary then the ramifications of uninviting her are quite small, so I would lean towards telling her not to come.

Help your DD write the message though.

You need to make it clear that they are coming, and that they will be polite or there will be appropriate consequences.

I can’t believe people are saying it’s ok to uninvite someone from a party! That’s increasingly rude and might be really upsetting for a 12 year old.

That’s increasingly rude and might be really upsetting for a 12 year old

Why? Actions have consequences!

It’s a harsh lesson learnt.

You cannot uninvite.

You, prior to the party, give your dd a pep talk about the situation and what behaviour is appropriate.

At 12, they can sort out who is coming themselves. Your daughter can tell her she’s no longer invited. They’re no longer at primary when parents have to be involved. Stay out of it.

She’s fallen out with the sister, not the party girl. And there’s nothing in the OP to imply she’s at fault.

The ‘action’ really shouldn’t lead to this consequence!

Its not so much the party girl I'm worried about its my other daughter. The friend accused my daughter ilid saying something nasty to her mum, which she denied and was backed up by kultiple witnesses. But the friend stood her ground and lied to her mum as well. So the twin is indignant about it. Her sister (who is having the party) knows the friend lied and has distanced herself. She doesn't want to be friends with her anymore. I don't want to stop her sister coming as they also have shared other friends at the party.