When your 10 year old is not nice any more

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Those who have several ds, could you tell me if it’s normally expected to have a hormonal surge or similar at the age of 9-10. my lovely mellow ds has changed over the last year and not a my sweetest little boy. i wonder if it’s more to worry about or boys change around this age. i can’t for the life of me remember what my others did at this age

My 9yr old DS has suddenly started having very sudden and extreme outbursts of emotions. Eg he has a very small bump and burst into tears wailing and when his sister said something annoying he jumped up shoved her screaming.

No idea what it is. But solidarity with you!!!!

I wondered if it’s the start of puberty hormones (but no other puberty signs). I wondered if he is just getting older and more complex emotions he is struggling to manage.

God only knows. I’ll be following with interest to see what others say.

Oh God, I can relate. DS is 9.5 and SO grumpy. Just yelled at me for having the audacity to suggest we have lasagna for tea. Apparently this constitutes a breach of his rights. Somebody call Childline...

yes can see the change in my 10 year old ds also. he's my only ds so no experience with older ones. just part of growing up I suppose.

While you can understand it don't accept it as there is a long way to go! Is he gaming more because of Summer holidays as its notorious for making them cranky. Call him on it every time so he doesn't get into the habit of it. Then return to normal life immediately afterwards.

Here for the replies. My almost 11yr old DS can be a grumpy and downright nasty little sh*t lately. He can also be incredibly kind and loving. I'm never quite sure which version we're going to get.

Presuming it's the onset of puberty and is likely to get worse before it gets better. Joy.

Really struggling with an almost 11 year old boy too. Just told his dad he has a shit life because we don't fly business class and aren't millionaires. This is the tip of the iceberg of things he has said today and I'm so disappointed in him. No idea how to deal with it.

Exactly the same here but with DD. Horrendous.

Me too. I want to cry. DD10 is horrible to all of us. Just in the last hour I have been told multiple times to shut up and that I am a freak. But also in the last hour, she has told me she loves me, wants to make up again, wants a hug. Her emotions seem to change almost every 5 minutes. I've been siting here wondering how I'm gong to survive the next 8 years.

My 9 year old granddaughter is really unpleasant, I struggle to like her at all. I was babysitting a couple of weeks ago AG her house and I asked her to turn off one of those plug in air freshener thingies because they cause me headaches and shortness of breath.

She was really angry with me for asking and stamped her feet a few times, then she went upstairs to the bathroom and came back with a can of spray air freshener and sprayed it into my face.
No advice but it’s very upsetting

Aw, buckle up, it's a bumpy ride through puberty! But, they do emerge on the other side, polite, well adjusted young people. If you're lucky....😂