Not eating food I cook.

[CurlyTop1980]

I need to know whether anyone has had this or whether this seems to be unique to my daughter? I have twins aged 11. They have always eaten everything. We are Mediterranean origin so we have loads of salads, beans, grilled meats etc. In the past 1 year or so one of my Dd's will not eat anything I cook. The only thing she will eat is rice. Plain white rice. Which she mixes with yoghurt. If we go to restaurant she will pick something we have at home weekly and eat it there. But will not eat what I cook. An example is Mussakka. I make this weekly using a family recipe which is delicious. I then maKe salad from the allotment and its fresh. Dd has refused to eat this for months
Literally ate it one day and refused left over the next day. But when we go to restaurant she will eat it.

We have been on holiday and she has eaten everything.Even fish in sauces. But as soon as we're home. She has started to refuse anything I cook. I've made roast chicken tonight. But she again has refused and I've had to boil her plain pasta with no salt or oil or anthing. As she hates my cooking. I'm at loss as to what to do. It's driving me crazy.

Any advice would be great!

[DustyLee123]

She cooks her own if she doesn’t eat what you cook, and cleans up after.

[Iknowthis1]

It sounds like the fussiness might be about control (perhaps subconsciously). Does she do any cooking herself or have any involvement in meal preparation? It might help if she is more involved.

[CurlyTop1980]

Thanks for your response. She does get involved in cooking..and she used to eat her cooked food. She has agreed to go shopping for food to cook together. Buy when ever I ask her why she doesn't eat she says my cooking is disgusting.

She is also very skinny. And I worry about her only eating plates of white rice and yoghurt.

Tonight she was gagging in a exaggerated fashion over the dinner. Her sister and my niece just eat everything.

[CurlyTop1980]

@DustyLee123

She cooks her own if she doesn’t eat what you cook, and cleans up after.

Thanks for this advice.
Last night I cooked grilled chicken wings,salad, and home.made flat breads. But before I cooked Iexplained to her that I accept she does not want to eat my meals. But she can no longer have rice and yoghurt or plain boiled pasta. I said to her she's getting bigger now and she can cook her own meal after we have all eaten, then eat and clear up after herself. But it cannot include pasta or rice.

Guess what
She came straight to the table and ate the dinner I made. 😊

I'm.hoping this hold out....

[Rocknrollstar]

Sorry but children of any age eat what is cooked for the family and, if they don’t want it, they do without. Obviously if there is something you know they detest that is different However I would keep a careful eye on her because it sounds as if this could be the beginning of anorexia.

[CurlyTop1980]

@Rocknrollstar

Sorry but children of any age eat what is cooked for the family and, if they don’t want it, they do without. Obviously if there is something you know they detest that is different However I would keep a careful eye on her because it sounds as if this could be the beginning of anorexia.

I agree with you and until she started acting like this we always ate together. But as I said about a year ago she started to refuse meals. Even ones she would have eaten the day before with no fuss. And she is stubborn. She's the type of child that hold in her wee until she gets a urine infection as she doesn't want to be told to use the loo.She is very emotional and will blow up over the smallest issue and lose her self. It's really hard to calm her down. An example is if she wants something and in a ship and we say it's not possible she will absolutely scream high pitch in a shop and lash out. With no consideration for other people. So we don't go into shops anymore.

I have to be careful to make sure she eats something so we compromised with the rice and yoghurt as I cooked that in chicken stock (made fresh with veg and herbs in it) and yoghurt
So at least she is getting some vitamins and calcium.

She absolutely hates house work and cleaning though so the suggestion to make her own food and clean up after worked well last night. Let's see how it goes.