DS(12) needs your thoughts. His parents are heartless

[RhubarbFairy]

So far, we're up to 9 big sighs, a period spent with his head on his arms on the table, 5 flounces between the kitchen, living room, garden, and his bedroom (punctuated by those aforementioned sighs).

And his heartless parents have not asked him what's wrong.

Send him your prayers.

The squaring up to you seems aggressive. Wonder if it's a usual occurrence. I agree with pp who says he sounds like an angry child and I suppose you know what's up with him in general, not just for now. He may need some support but I assume you're already on it. So let him sulk today.

Ds2 draped himself dramatically over the furniture this evening and when asked what was up said it was so unfair that his brother (aged 16) has a phone and he (aged 10) doesn't.

I pointed out that ds1 didn't get a phone until he was in p7 and ds2 will get one at the same time. He doesn't need a phone btw, he wants to play games on one.

I also pointed out that he could play games on the tablet that he'll get once he's earned the secondhand replacement for the one that he carelessly broke a month ago.

All he needs to do is tidy his room. Literally that's it (he's done other jobs). Apparently IT'S SO UNFAIR AS IT'S TOO STRESSFUL.

So sad.

That doesn’t answer the why. Only the who and what.
Has he said why? Have you asked? Have all the lessons he’s gotten the conduct points been with the same teacher?

The “thinks he’s funny …” doesn’t sound like what a child would say, it sounds like an outside judgement of his behaviour.

I think you do need to find out why because his saying he’s going to get conduct points so deal with it, indicates he doesn’t feel it is within his control. Why is that?

It's a mystery. Maybe it's because you don't understand and you are so unfair?

I've a 13 year old DD, my god can she flounce and huff and is it ever her fault, no of course not 🤦‍♀️

Oh dear, @RhubarbFairy, you do realise this is just the forerunner until he transitions into full 'teenage grunt' mode don't you?
You will be expected to interpret those grunts in the manner of a clairvoyant to enable him not to speak an intelligible word.
Keep your tinder dry, and carry on with the 'finger in ears, la, la, la, can't hear you' thing.
(Many years ago, I may have descended into pretending to listen to a portable CD player with nothing playing and resorted to 'what did you say? I can't hear you'.
These days the same effect can be found through the use of your choice of ear pods.
Sending you strength in sisterhood.

Bless him 😁
Similar issues bere..My almost 11 y/o was advised by me not to drink anything other than water at night after she's brushed her teeth. This is so ridiculously unfair (obviously) as water is boring. I told her I'm going to make a charity campaign advert to raise money for all children affected by having to drink only water at night. So so sad for these kids with such horrible parents 😭