Ds has SEN, and I have disabilities also. I have a medical condition where I can not speak or move. I am here as a single parent. DS is much younger in his development and manner. He has incontinence, and tantrums like a much younger child. The problem is that he is growing physically bigger and stronger than me, and he knows it. I'm ashamed to say that I'm actually scared of my 11yo Ds. I tense up when he's around. The only thing that stops him is if someone else is here, like my older ds or my mum. Has any one else please been through this? I'm genuinely afraid that he's going to push me down the stairs or smother me with a pillow if he has a tantrum and doesn't get his way.