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Upper lip hair on 7 year old

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Shoe19 · 06/04/2023 09:06

Hi,
My daughter is 7 years old and recently the hair on her upper lip hair has significantly darkened. The same thing happened to me when I was a child and I was horribly bullied for it all through my teens until I was old enough to realise I could remove it! My daughter is blissfully unaware of anything at the moment and doesn't seem to have had any comments but it is only a matter of time before other kids start noticing and I can't bear the thought of her being bullied like I was (she is mixed race, half Indian/half Italian so destined to be hairy!!) .
Long story short, does anyone have any advice, or experience of this... Is 7 too young to start removing it? I don't want to use any chemicals on her face.
Thank you.

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Mrsjayy · 06/04/2023 09:09

Just give it time don't mention it to her atm it would be really painful for her to get it removed see how it goes maybe whenshes a few years older bleach or remove it.

MrsPelligrinoPetrichor · 06/04/2023 09:09

I would leave it until she mentions it but if she wants to remove it then the Flawless Touch is excellent and she won't cut herself.

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Shoe19 · 06/04/2023 09:15

Thank you, that's really helpful. What is Flawless Touch?

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BartsLongLostBro · 06/04/2023 09:27

Family members have waxed their kids. Not saying I agree at that age. But maybe at 11 or when she asks or notices it?

Mrsjayy · 06/04/2023 13:20

Shoe19 · 06/04/2023 09:15

Thank you, that's really helpful. What is Flawless Touch?

It's a little hand held facial trimmer electric razor really. I'm sure JML make it .

DamnThatHitsHome · 06/04/2023 13:23

Please, please don’t ever bring it up or point it out.

If SHE wants to get rid of it she can, and you can support her with that, but for the love of god never imply you think she should or that it’s something to be embarrassed of.

She is beautiful, and the people that yay show that unequivocally are her family. If she thinks her family consider it a physical flaw then she has no hope.

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Shoe19 · 07/04/2023 18:58

Thank you... I will check it out!

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Shoe19 · 07/04/2023 19:03

I would never ever do, or say, anything that makes my daughter feel bad about herself. Having experienced horrible and traumatic bullying thoughout my childhood (and knowing how cruel children can be), I want to avoid the same fate for her, should that time ever come but thank you for your input.

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callista123 · 06/08/2023 11:16

Hi my DD8 has exactly the same heritage and the same hair on her lip by the sounds of it but we have had at least 6 different children at school tell her that she has a moustache so she says it must be true and we can't exactly lie about it so we have been talking about how we are all different and how it's normal and natural - there is a great picture book on Bodies that shows all different types of people to normalise well normal people!
However I have also said that if she wants to remove it we can ... just not sure what the best route is? And how often we will have to do it.
My mum didn't let me shave my legs until I was 13 and I remember the pain it caused me being bullied at school!

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Shoe19 · 06/08/2023 21:23

Hi, that's a good way to approach it with your DD. It is hard though, isn't it? I am leaving it for now but, like you, will remove if and when she asks. Thanks for commenting...it is good to know we are not alone in this dilemma!

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Godlovesall26 · 20/08/2023 10:05

Hi, I’m also mixed race although not the same ones, but same idea of amount and early showing ha, but I have pale olive (it’s supposed to be olive, in reality just pale point blank) skin and black hair, and would recommend when she asks to take her to the beautician for waxing. Only upper lip wouldn’t cost hugely. Then she can in time learn how to do it herself, I use the Veet cold wax strips and takes 2 seconds. Neither hurt for me.
I wouldn’t recommend shaving facial hair, it can grow back not greatly (as in a bit thicker, basically the same as when you use a razor vs waxing, and then it tends to show more that you have shaved).
Only my experience though, the wax strips are not expensive which is good, and obviously you need to do it less often.

Godlovesall26 · 20/08/2023 10:08

Godlovesall26 · 20/08/2023 10:05

Hi, I’m also mixed race although not the same ones, but same idea of amount and early showing ha, but I have pale olive (it’s supposed to be olive, in reality just pale point blank) skin and black hair, and would recommend when she asks to take her to the beautician for waxing. Only upper lip wouldn’t cost hugely. Then she can in time learn how to do it herself, I use the Veet cold wax strips and takes 2 seconds. Neither hurt for me.
I wouldn’t recommend shaving facial hair, it can grow back not greatly (as in a bit thicker, basically the same as when you use a razor vs waxing, and then it tends to show more that you have shaved).
Only my experience though, the wax strips are not expensive which is good, and obviously you need to do it less often.

I wouldn’t do it myself the first time as it will be a quick and less painful experience at a professional’s, which will help her confidence about it, but definitely ask them discreetly for advice.

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