How to cope?

[autumntime26]

Hi all,

Dd9 over the past few months has become increasingly emotional, cries at almost anything and nothing seems to help calm her down. She seems to go through stages of this where she will be fine for a week or two and then becomes emotional and it's now becoming an issue at school, if she's having a bad day she will refuse to do anything and just sit there and cry for the whole day. She has a great friendship group and sometimes says that she has no friends however school have confirmed this isn't true. School have been brilliant and are helping her with her self esteem and she meets with someone once a week to talk about her feelings and how to cope but is this normal pre teen emotions or something deeper? I'm completely at a loss.

Thank you

My youngest (Dd10) was like this up until recently. I would say it can be normal pre teen emotions but also that you know your child and to trust your instincts. Have school seen other changes in behaviour? Sending lots of support ❤️

I wouldn't say crying fir a whole day was usual, sorry @autumntime26.

Does she have any interests out if school, like Cubs or Dance? Dramas might help her self esteem if she fancies giving it a try.

Has she read The Feelings Book and has it helped?

@frshnr thank you for replying, it's really difficult sometimes as she's actually really stubborn (takes after me). Her school have been brilliant with her and apart from her being emotional a lot they haven't really noticed anything else!

@PritiPatelsMaker sorry this is a bit of a drip feed and possibly outing but I've recently just started working in her school but in a completely different part of it so I don't see her. The reason she cried all day was because my ds had to have the day off due to being poorly which in turn meant I wasn't in, she obviously wanted to come home too but couldn't. She hasn't read that book but I've just ordered it so hopefully that helps. Every time I've asked her what's wrong or why she becomes emotional after she has calmed down she just says 'don't know'. She also doesn't want to do any clubs whenever I ask her if she wants to join something she says no which I think is partly due to her physical disability as she's become more aware of it now she's older.

My Dd who is 8 1/2 has become emotional too, lots of crying, not always a reason. A few friends had said that 8 can be hormonal, but they were saying more so for boys. I don't know if that's true. I'm just in the middle of reading 'between' by Sarah Ockwell-Smith, to get a bit more clued up on what we might be in for!

It's interesting that she says she doesn't know when you ask her why she's upset. I've only recently realised that my DD has no emotional language at all, I had just assumed that she didn't want to tell me, not that she couldn't express how she was feeling.