So , yeah
I’ll be the first to admit this that this should have been sorted sooner ,
so my sons share a room and as a result my they both are going to sleep at a similar time I.e to late for DS 2 and it means DS1 gets no downtime to watch things more grown up away from ds2 , I know he needs a break from him and especially as he’s getting older he finds it suffocating sometimes,
the thing is ds2 is on the spectrum and has PDA traits , that can make his behaviour very challenging and difficult, he would not take it well.
But at the same time it’s not ok if he thinks he can rule the roost and accept him and his brother are different ages and DS1 is a young adult and gets different privileges
Anyone with any advice will be much appreciated x
How to negotiate a different bedtime with a 10 year old and 13 year old without creating ww3?
Notbeinfunnehbut · 08/01/2023 18:29
So , yeah
TeenDivided · 08/01/2023 18:38
Ah that's hard, ideally you have been doing this from ages 4 and 7.
I fear the ASD/PDA is going to be the defining thing here? Can you change things very very gradually, just start with DS2 into bed slightly earlier. Then maybe DS1 'needs to finish homework' and gradually lengthen the time?
No chance of splitting the room in 2 I guess.
btw 13 is not young adult, I'd avoid thinking that. Young adult is more like 16/17.
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