What to do with 11 year old

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Being nosey. I have only child DD11 and I worry she's bored a lot. She has phone, tv, art stuff etc, does lots of sports and me and DH will go walking, play board games etc with her whenever she wants. We also do her sports with her and go to cinema etc

But day to day over school hols I worry she's bored and lonely. She has no cousins her age.

We have her friends round when we can but her two best friends have suddenly become toxic and leaving her out a lot (whole other thread) it's not something DD has done (I check phone to make sure all ok and on of her BF has form for doing this) and she's not close enough to her other friends to be confident asking them to come over.

What do your only children pre-tweens do just lounging round house or even with friends? They're too young to go to town or hang out alone, but then too old for the days out that we used to do. We're in north.

I'll even take ideas for days out!

My DD10 (year 6) does spend a lot of time in her room on her phone and iPad chatting to friends, more than I would like for all of the reasons you have said.
To get out we usually do trampoline parks, clip’n’climb type places. Usually ask a friend to join us. Either with or without friends parents. (I prefer with so I can have a cuppa with some company!)

Thanks. We do those days out but it seems to have become an expectation from DDs friends parents that we'll take kids for days out and we've become a bit of a golden goose for days out and childcare. They never offer back (despite being financially better off by their account) and it seems to be that they'll not invite my DD to theirs and instead will often invite others friends round but will Happily let their kids go for days out with us. We feel a bit used. I'm going to cut back on days out as we feel very used I think but then I feel DD misses out spending time with her friends. I need some cheap/ free activities or just what they do in home? It's hard for me to know what's normal
As I come From a. Large family with lots of cousins and siblings but they're all
Abroad and we never get to see them. Plus I spent time at boarding school. I've literally no idea what is normal For kids to do at home. The older she gets the less she wants to interact so I feel bit lost about it all