How to deal with childhood grief.

[DWMoosmum]

My sons best girlfriend passed away a few weeks ago, very unexpectedly. She was 11, he's 11. He hasn't spoken about it but keeps breaking down but blaming his tears on other things. We have the funeral next week and he wants to go, as most of the class will be there too, we've told him he doesn't need to go but he wants to.

I'm really struggling to know what to do to help him. We're acknowledging his pain, albeit pandering to the pains and aches he says are making him cry other than what we know is really going on. He has mentioned her a few times but he doesn't dwell on it, he just moves off the subject really quickly. There's not a day goes by where he isn't in tears. Even when he's together with his close friends they all cry together.

Any advise as to what we can do to help at this really sad time would be much appreciated.

Oh that sounds so difficult @DWMoosmum and I'm sorry that you didn't get any responses.

How is he doing now?

@PritiPatelsMaker Ah thank you. I ended up posting it on a different thread and got some responses about Winstons Wish.

We had the funeral on Thursday and he's opened up a little since then. He actually didn't think that the coffin actually had the body inside, he though that it just contained all of her favourite things. It made me so sad when my husband told me. It just goes to show how their little minds work.

Thank you for responding to me xx

He actually didn't think that the coffin actually had the body inside, he though that it just contained all of her favourite things

You forget sometimes how little they know about these things. Thinking that the coffin contains her favourite things is such a lovely way of thinking about things though.

He sounds like a lovely boy who's got a lot to deal with. I hope he gets some support to help to navigate those feelings