DS (11) has just started year 7. He’s struggling with getting homework done and is often scrambling to do it at the breakfast table as he’s ‘forgotten’ it. his personal hygiene is not great either, regularly ‘forgetting’ to brush his teeth and wash his hair when in the shower. He also takes treats without asking (tracker bars, crisps, froobs etc) and eats them in his room to the point there are none left for anyone else.
He has a PlayStation which I limit but the minute my back is turned he’ll go back on. He’s had countless bans for this. He’s worked out how to extend his time on his phone and will sneak his laptop into his room at night. Also had countless bans but makes no difference.
I am at the end of my tether. I’ve really lost it with him this morning. His hair is really greasy and I asked him repeatedly to wash it last night, this morning I realised he hadn’t. He also hadn’t brushed his teeth. It ended up with him crying his eyes out and me shouting at him. I feel horrible as does he. Has anyone ever done this before or am I a horrible person?
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HotchPotched · 10/11/2022 08:48
HotchPotched · 10/11/2022 08:48
DS (11) has just started year 7. He’s struggling with getting homework done and is often scrambling to do it at the breakfast table as he’s ‘forgotten’ it. his personal hygiene is not great either, regularly ‘forgetting’ to brush his teeth and wash his hair when in the shower. He also takes treats without asking (tracker bars, crisps, froobs etc) and eats them in his room to the point there are none left for anyone else.
He has a PlayStation which I limit but the minute my back is turned he’ll go back on. He’s had countless bans for this. He’s worked out how to extend his time on his phone and will sneak his laptop into his room at night. Also had countless bans but makes no difference.
I am at the end of my tether. I’ve really lost it with him this morning. His hair is really greasy and I asked him repeatedly to wash it last night, this morning I realised he hadn’t. He also hadn’t brushed his teeth. It ended up with him crying his eyes out and me shouting at him. I feel horrible as does he. Has anyone ever done this before or am I a horrible person?
HotchPotched · 10/11/2022 08:48
DS (11) has just started year 7. He’s struggling with getting homework done and is often scrambling to do it at the breakfast table as he’s ‘forgotten’ it. his personal hygiene is not great either, regularly ‘forgetting’ to brush his teeth and wash his hair when in the shower. He also takes treats without asking (tracker bars, crisps, froobs etc) and eats them in his room to the point there are none left for anyone else.
He has a PlayStation which I limit but the minute my back is turned he’ll go back on. He’s had countless bans for this. He’s worked out how to extend his time on his phone and will sneak his laptop into his room at night. Also had countless bans but makes no difference.
I am at the end of my tether. I’ve really lost it with him this morning. His hair is really greasy and I asked him repeatedly to wash it last night, this morning I realised he hadn’t. He also hadn’t brushed his teeth. It ended up with him crying his eyes out and me shouting at him. I feel horrible as does he. Has anyone ever done this before or am I a horrible person?
Hopelessacademic · 10/11/2022 11:34
@GarlicCrackers that's genius! Could you possibly share the links for the smart plugs and covers?
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