Dc organising weekend plans

[DeathMetalMum]

Dd is 11 just started year 7, making lots of new friends in school all going well.

Dd came home Monday asking to meet up and go the cinema on Saturday with a couple of friends (girls and boys), all fine. I need to drive her there as its local shopping park near where her friends live and I don't want her going on the bus alone. So I said I need a time. Four days later she still hasnt given me a time and the film she originally said they were going to watch isn't on. I'm not bothered if she just wants to hang out but was hoping to get an idea of the time from when the film was on.

I've told her unless she gives me a time by tomorrow evening then she can't go. We don't have any plans as such but also it's not just round the corner 20 minutes in no traffic. Is that fair? Are they always so flaky regarding plans?

Pretty u fair imo.

Kids don't organise times etc until day before atleast. And now the films not on they may not set a time until the morning.

You've got nothing on, want her there safely I would just go with it

I have two teens albeit older now and you'll have to get used to this, plans change all the time with teens and right up until the last minute.

If we didn't have plans we would just go with it but otherwise I just used to say what times we were available and they have to work around us.

All good fun being an unpaid Uber and picking/dropping their mates off too 😂

OK I've already said we need to know tomorrow evening which is the day before so I will stick to it this time. But will keep in mind next time. I'm not too fussed about times changing, just would be nice to have a ballpark e.g. after lunch.

I would try and get used to the idea of her going on the bus alone, it's not a big deal, especially in the day time. You'll be glad that you did when it's every weekend 😁

She goes to school on the bus, to town and then another bus, doesn't meet anyone in particular but usually finds someone so I'm ok with her getting the bus in general. But the area where she would be going (out of town shopping park) is just that bit further, bus would be around an hour as it's not direct, probably fine in a few more months or next year but not quite yet. Her friends aren't allowed to town at the moment (they get a direct school bus) as we suggested that.

I think, if you don't need to be elsewhere, you should just go with the flow for now.
It is all new and quite a 'thing' to be able to round up a group of other 11 yr olds, and check film times, and sort lifts, and get everyone to agree when you are just 11. She is on a journey and as a parent, if you can, it would be nice to support her in that.

Of course, if you need to be somewhere else, then let her know that .... "I'm not home until 3,30 so it you want to go before that, see if one of the others can give you a lift and I'll pick you all up afterwards" sort of information to factor in. However, if you can be flexible, I'd be supporting her with her organising.

Since the introduction of mobile phones, the world at large have found it more and more difficult to decide something and commit to it, as everyone can be in communication at all times.