Bed wetting

[Gottoomuchgoingon]

My DD has little accidents at bedtime.
Most morning it's just her pj bottoms are wet where she didn't make it into the bathroom. Every morning I find that she's put them in the wash during the night
Maybe once or twice a month I find all her bedding in the basket.
She goes to the loo before bed and when I ask why she didn't make it to the toilet she just says she was sleeping. We're going away soon and I can't have her doing this there. Any tips or advice please?

She's just turned 10 by the way so too old for this

My DS9 does this consistently all the time from birth. Reducing the volume they drink after a certain point in the evening, encouraging them to hydrate a lot earlier in the day, empty their bladder before bed as you encourage. Is this a new thing? Or ongoing?

It's ongoing. Not often full blown bed changing accidents but definitely damp pj bottoms most days

What does she say happens? Does she feel she needs to go? Is she worried that she's going to get into trouble?

Does she have yoghurt or milk in the afternoon or evening? @Gottoomuchgoingon

My 11 year wets the bed every night, full blown bed wetting. It runs in our family unfortunately. I'm trying to be patient rather than resort to medication but it is such an inconvenience when we travel.

Is this a new thing or has it been going on for a while? I really don't want to worry you, but bedwetting can be a symptom of sexual abuse. I only mention it because I know of someone who's DD started bedwetting as a result of abuse.

No. Would that be a cause though?
I'd say she doesn't drink enough during the day

Dryness at night depends on a chemical being produced by the body. Not at all "her fault". You need to go to the GP and get some medication for your DD to take. It really helped my DS.

There is literally no chance of that.

Thank you. I think I will. I know it's not her fault I don't blame her at all

You sound a little bit like you do blame her - you've said "she's too old for this" and "I can't have her doing it on holiday" - those phrases sound like you are annoyed with her and think it's her fault. She can't help it and no 10 year old is choosing to not be dry at night. She probably senses your attitude and that will be making it worse. Reassure her you aren't cross, and you know she's not doing it on purpose.

If you think she doesn't drink enough in the day that's the first thing to address. My DS bed wetting was resolved by increasing how much he drank during the day to increase his bladder capacity. So he had to drink a big glass of water/squash in one go at regular points during the day. Not little sips here and there - a full glass.

Where I live you can self refer to the bed wetting service via the school/community nurses service so it might not even need a GP visit. If you Google bed wetting service and your area it will probably come up.

No definitely don't blame her. I would never show I was cross even if I was. She's pretty laid back and doesn't get embarrassed about it.

Obviously I don't want her doing it in holiday because she might well be mortified that we need a new mattress on holiday.

I've been getting her to drink more during the day.

My son isn't dry at night. There are various causes so referral to a bladder specialist definitely the best idea.

Some things my son's consultant advised that you could try in the meantime. Drink plenty during the day - this stretches the bladder to help it accommodate more urine over night.

Front load drinks in the morning and stop drinking an hour before bed.

No fizzy drinks, blackcurrant or citrus squash. Apparently they can irritate the bladder. We have summer fruits or mango squash instead.

My son uses nappy pants on holiday to remove the stress for all of us. You can get them in bigger sizes on Amazon.

Thank you.

Home now and not one accident the whole time.