Yet another Screen Time Rant!

[Scoobydoobydoo]

Just needed a moan and a rant.

DS is 11 and is doing well at school. However, struggles with emotion management and is getting increasingly angry and when he is angry he says a lot of very hurtful things!

He Is allowed screen time of 45 minutes watching mindless Minecraft videos Monday to Thursday
Fridays to Sundays he gets 2 hours of playing Minecraft with friends or on his own.
In addition he gets around 20 minutes of games time on his phone
His school have a policy of no phones during break and lunch for their year but do not police it.
So my DS has been playing the game on his phone during break which we have allowed
This morning he wanted it upped from 20 minutes saying I can claw it back from his evening youtube time.
This does seem an unreasonable request as such. However I do worry this will lead to more phone time in school which the school do not encourage on paper.
I'd rather have mindless youtube in the evening as a down-time after school.

This led to a lot of arguments before him leaving for school. He left with a door bang and unpleasant words and sent me a "I hate you" message when he reached school.

I have previously warned him if he has 3 warnings for behaviour then he loses his tech for a week.
Today is his fourth strike!
I should really stick to my words this time and carry the threat through shoudn't I?

Will be a fun weekend at ours :-(

[TalkToTheHand123]

Not necessarily as you will likely suffer too! Not saying don't but there may be better consequences. Good luck either way.

[Notsomellownow]

I have to say I am really struggling with limiting screen time here and find it easier to use blunt instruments like no iPad, YouTube, Fortnite Mon-Thurs and then flexible on weekends. Problem is more wants more and the behaviour becomes worse the more they have. Sport is the only thing that saves us. Mad into football so that naturally puts a break in. Behaviour and attitude is getting worse and Incessant demand for more instant gratification. Treats, vbucks etc. I'm fairly good at holding the line but ex partner gives unlimited access so I'm always the bad guy. FML. What do we do???