10 year old soiling

[Greenrebel]

I've noticed my ten year old is soiling her underwear then hiding it . It's not every day but maybe twice a week . I did ask her and she was upset and embarrassed,I explained where to put her washing etc and no problem if it happened . She's at her dads every second weekend and I noticed it after she came home yesterday again ,however it can happen at home too . She would have suffered anxiety when her dad and I separated but it's five years now and we are all in a good routine

Any advice welcome

[HeyGirlHeyBoy]

Encopresis is the medical term. First thing to check on is diet, enough fibre etc, it could be a dietary thing rather than anxiety. Of course it can lead to anxiety around it and you can find yourself in a vicious circle. As gently as possible, I'd have a chat to her, has she had trouble going, reassure her and you could maybe talk about how things work etc. Most important thing is to try and prevent a situation where she starts holding it. Sitting with feet on a raised step while going can help, blowing bubbles while going etc all helpful. A gp may give a laxative if appropriate. All that said, it could be a recent and shortlived thing and I hope that's the case. Your own calm and reassurance around it will be really important. Best of luck.

[Shockedmama]

We suffered for years with this. My dd would withhold at her dads, I don’t know why. She never has been very enthusiastic about going.

We were under a specialist and had to do a clear out it took about a year to get off the medication but I think it was linked to anxiety and then the soiling causes anxiety itself.

You need to do a full clear out my advise is to get something stronger than lactolos

[MissClementine]

The ERIC website is very helpful in this situation.