10 year old soiling

[Greenrebel]

I've noticed my ten year old is soiling her underwear then hiding it . It's not every day but maybe twice a week . I did ask her and she was upset and embarrassed,I explained where to put her washing etc and no problem if it happened . She's at her dads every second weekend and I noticed it after she came home yesterday again ,however it can happen at home too . She would have suffered anxiety when her dad and I separated but it's five years now and we are all in a good routine

Any advice welcome

Encopresis is the medical term. First thing to check on is diet, enough fibre etc, it could be a dietary thing rather than anxiety. Of course it can lead to anxiety around it and you can find yourself in a vicious circle. As gently as possible, I'd have a chat to her, has she had trouble going, reassure her and you could maybe talk about how things work etc. Most important thing is to try and prevent a situation where she starts holding it. Sitting with feet on a raised step while going can help, blowing bubbles while going etc all helpful. A gp may give a laxative if appropriate. All that said, it could be a recent and shortlived thing and I hope that's the case. Your own calm and reassurance around it will be really important. Best of luck.

We suffered for years with this. My dd would withhold at her dads, I don’t know why. She never has been very enthusiastic about going.

We were under a specialist and had to do a clear out it took about a year to get off the medication but I think it was linked to anxiety and then the soiling causes anxiety itself.

You need to do a full clear out my advise is to get something stronger than lactolos

The ERIC website is very helpful in this situation.