Pre-teen girlfriend dramas (already!)
Ginblooded · 06/12/2021 21:43
I'll try and keep this short.
My DS (11) is in yr 6 of primary. One of his close friends has had on/off girlfriend/boyfriend status with a girl for the last few years. They are not currently boyfriend/girlfriend.
Today, my DS has come home and told me he has a new girlfriend, and it's his friends 'ex'. This has caused major classroom drama, with some members of the class messaging quite mean things to him, and they've now deleted him from the class chat- he's been told no one wants him there or likes him anymore.
This gets slightly more complicated, as his close friends parents are my DPs best friends. DP thinks I need to effectively tell DS to break up with this girl because it has upset the friend. I've spoken to him already about choosing friends over girls, but ultimately I can't force him to do anything. From my experience, they'll be broken up within a week!
I feel quite pathetic posting this, but I can sense some tension in the upcoming weeks from the parents and DP if it doesn't resolve itself and would like some outside perspective
LostForWords2021 · 06/12/2021 21:49
From my experience, they'll be broken up within a week!
Exactly, stick to adult conversation and let the 11 year olds do the 11 year old things.
No way would I bother getting involved at 11years of age.
goodgollygosh23 · 06/12/2021 21:56
The problem is that while it's pathetic to us (and it is very pathetic) in 11 year old land this is a big deal and if he's being picked on and booted out of group chats over it I can imagine it's having an effect on him.
For that reason alone I would speak to him and try and encourage the friends to make amends.
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