How to deal with moody DD (hormonal mum)

[Kione]

I imagine my daughters behavior is normal, but I have PMDD (PMD on steroids) and I am really struggling.
She is nearly 12, talks like shit to me and her 4 y/o brother.
Her dad and I have separated and I have moved out, parenting 50/50 which I imagine doesn't help. Although she was like this before.
To day I shouted and cried.
I am on my PMDD "hell week" and I know it will pass but, honestly, I feel like sending them with their dad full time.
I really am in bits.

Anyone?

I have a 12 and an 11 year old both girls. 11 year old is autistic and fairly shouty a lot of the time. 12 year old can be very crappy and rude. I ignore a lot for the small stuff and take her phone off her when she’s very very rude. I think a lot of them are like it at this age.

The problem is that it's not just you that's hormonal. At 12 she will be awash with hormones too (was like this in our house when I got menopausal when my 2 girls were early teens).

Very little advice, I think I coped by doing positive stuff together, I remember a great huge hug from dd2 when I bought her a bath bomb, cost about £3.99 and smoothed things over for several days.

I'm sorry about your marriage, that must be making things so much worse. Does she have siblings. If so, could you arrange to have her on her own and see how that goes (I mean, occasionally).

Thanks for the replies. I know she is hormonal too, but is all happy and upbeat around her dad and her mood drops as soon as we start talking about her days that she needs to come to my house. She doesn't like coming and neither does my 4 y/o ds.
It hurts so much.

I'm sorry - that sounds awful for you

Are you on anything for pmd? Would you consider the pill?

The only other thing that springs to mind is exercise. Instead of trying to fix your problems with parenting solutions, you might find that exercise makes everything feel easier and calmer.

Good luck and don't beat yourself up. You can only do your best

Yes I am on medication for PMDD and it works really well. My bad week is not as bad as it could be! But my DDs moods are trying!