Sex education for 10yr old girl

[itshardaf]

I need help!
I have a 10yr old who goes out of her way to look for,find anything sexual on her phone, I talked to her about it,grounded and took her phone away and I believed it had stopped as I do frequently go through her phone and stuff. Today I found a chat screen grab of a sexual nature.
I am so disappointed in myself as a parent!
I grew up poor and I poverty led me into tricky situations, so I make sure she has everything she needs so as to not end up in situations, have someone promise her these things in turn for sexual favours.
I do not know how else to talk to her anymore!

I have virgin media child setting turned on as well as in family link. Why does she look any ideas. What is she looking at. Are you having boyfriends round or talking to her about multiple men etc?

I do not have a boyfriend, do not talk to her about men. Every time I ask her she says she does not know why she looks at it and is aware she should not but she just does. I do have a counseling app for next week.

I don't want to be judgey but I honestly think 10 is too young for a phone.

Once they have a phone you are opening up a huge Pandora's box - they can look at anything on there- anything. That isn't something a 10 yo should have access too. I would take the phone away until she is older at the very least.

And try to have a discussion with her about sex, tell her she can ask you any questions. She is obviously curious, which is natural. But you really don't want her to be getting her sex education from YouTube etc at age 10!

Sorry but I do think she should never have had unrestricted access to Internet / phones

Obviously you need to understand why she is doing this and how she knows what to search for, these are very important questions. You need to be gentle but probing as it is vital you find out. I agree with others it is time to take away the phone, not so much as a punishment but to safeguard her.

Agreed. She hasn't had the phone since I caught her...

Please ask to Speak to the safeguarding lead at school for advice.