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Normal teenager or something more?

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DIKateFleming · 13/07/2021 12:45

DD is 12 and coming to the end of year 7. In the last 12 months she’s become increasingly introverted. Secondary seems to have gone OK, a few wobbles along the way, but nothing awful, made new friends, good feedback from teachers, especially on behaviour.

However she is less and less keen on doing things outside school, apart from her one class. Doesn’t want to meet up with friends, we’ve suggested she invited them over, she’s turned down invites to go to them. When she has seen friends, because we’ve invited them over with their parents who are our friends, she’s not been keen, but then she’s clearly enjoyed herself.

At home she doesn’t interact with us a lot, but at times it’s tricky as we’re both WFH, but try to log off in the evenings to spend time with her, which she doesn’t want to do.

I’ve asked what she wants to do in the holiday, places to go or people to see, and there’s nothing. it’s like she doesn’t have joy anymore. She can get lost in a good book, and some films, but that’s it.

I have a history of depression, and had an episode around this age, so I’m nervous that she’s inherited something from me. But then we are a slightly introverted quite family (she’s an only child), and maybe it’s just natural teenage hormones and introversion.

Any tips/ books? I’d just like to her find joy in something and have enthusiasm about something, like she used to.

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SergeiL · 13/07/2021 12:54

You could be describing my DD. I am having to force her outside of her comfort zone and have signed her up for some holiday activities. I am nervous about how she will be but she cannot carry on like she is. My daughter is naturally an introvert, like me, and I am taking the view that this has been exacerbated by lockdown. I am a bit the same to be honest - I need to be forced to go out as otherwise I would just continue in lockdown mode.

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