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Preteens

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8 year old DD monobrow

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SippingSipsmith · 17/06/2021 08:20

My 8yr old DD is upset she has a bit of a monobrow. I've reassured her but she's a bit upset about it. She isn't wrong but it's not thick.

What do I do? I feel she's too young to do anything but then I don't want her getting upset and subconscious about it.

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BernadetteRostankowskiWolowitz · 17/06/2021 08:22

Just find a way to remove the middle bit with her. Not sure what the gentlest option is for an 8yo but if she wants it gone, then she can have it gone imo.

Sometimesfraught82 · 17/06/2021 08:22

How serious are we talking about?

Essentially though, if she’s upset about it, then I would very carefully and frugally pluck

jaysus6000 · 17/06/2021 08:25

Don't do it yourself. You could end up removing too much hair that won't grow back. Take her to have it threaded .

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SippingSipsmith · 17/06/2021 14:24

It's not too noticeable at all unless up close/in certain lights. I think I could pluck a few in the middle to make her happier I just wasn't sure if 8 is too young for her but then again if she's noticed it and it's bothering her then I just want her to be confident. I've told her big brows are really fashionable and she's lucky to have full eyebrows etc but that's not washing!

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fairynick · 17/06/2021 14:27

I would recommend waxing because it hurts just as much as plucking and threading, but all at once - so only a second of pain for her as opposed to ten minutes or so.
I was an extremely hairy young girl, and my DM never let me shave me legs/remove moustache etc until I was at an age she deemed appropriate.
In the long run it gave me further issues about my body hair. Had I just disliked it and had it removed instantly, rather than hating myself every time I looked in the mirror for years, then I don’t think I’d be as hung up about it.

user1483387154 · 17/06/2021 14:43

if she is upset, then get her waxed.

Blackjeans88 · 17/06/2021 14:45

Find somebody who offers hot wax, and be clear it is only the middle you would like removing. Over time the hair will come back less.
It does probably feel like she is young to start having this but it's only delaying the inevitable. Good luck

CeeceeBloomingdale · 17/06/2021 14:47

My friends daughter was similar and was bullied for it. She now gets them waxed.

PrincessNymeria · 17/06/2021 14:50

I would pluck the hairs in the middle, straight after she's had a shower (the heat will loosen the hair follicles and it won't hurt as much).

Aquamarine1029 · 17/06/2021 14:52

My cousin's daughters had this issue at the same age. She took them to have it waxed and they were both so happy.

idontlikealdi · 17/06/2021 14:53

If she wants it gone get her waxed. It's her choice.

AngelsWithSilverWings · 17/06/2021 16:04

My DD was bullied in primary about her bushy eyebrows. I took her to have them threaded but asked that it be done to look very natural. She was anxious about the threading so the therapists waxed them the first couple of times. DD didn't like the redness that she got after waxing so decided to try the threading again and now says she prefers it. She's 12 now and goes once a month ( unless we are in lockdown)

Gettingbiggerandbigger · 17/06/2021 16:08

If it’s upsetting her fix it. 8 is young yes, but children are cruel, I’d much rather pluck a few hairs then put my dd at risk if bullying.

DinosaurDiana · 17/06/2021 16:10

A friends daughter had pubic hair at this age,
She bought her a trimmer as the daughter was upset about it.
I’d get it waxed or threaded.

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SippingSipsmith · 17/06/2021 20:16

Thanks so much everyone. Think the bath and plucking a few would be a good option. I usually have mine threaded but am not at the moment due to Corona so I'll keep that as an option for her in the future.

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Fromthebirdsnest · 18/06/2021 08:38

Take her to a salon and get it removed if she's embarrassed xx

Italianmeringuebuttercream · 27/07/2021 08:19

I had an awful mono brow as a kid. My mum plucked mine but she had beautician experience. As I got older I discovered waxing but if left me red for days! I then tried threading which was a game changer. Now, in my 40s they hardly grow so I just pluck the odd stray.

grey12 · 27/07/2021 08:24

I do my own eyebrows with tweezers. Gently one by one analysing which hairs need to be removed. Maybe you only need to pluck 3 or 4

NerrSnerr · 27/07/2021 08:33

Give her the options and let her decide what she would like to do.

Matildatoldsuchdreadfullies · 27/07/2021 08:36

Use teething gel on the area before waxing…. I read this tip as a teenager, and still do it when plucking my eyebrows. I don’t know if it’s a placebo effect, but I definitely find it less painful when I use it.

FWIW, OP, I was an incredibly hairy child, and I’d say if your dd is worried by excess hair you should help her deal with it, even if you don’t think it’s too bad.

PieceOfString · 27/07/2021 08:40

Don't forget if you pluck to pull in the direction of hair growth or you can deform the follicle and get in growing hairs.
I think body autonomy is so important and admitting that lots of people remove hair they don't want so it's an option is honest and gives you the chance to describe options. When I was young I was so clueless and in the dark about this stuff I took my dad's razor to mine and lived with mono brow stubble for ages until I could figure it out.

PieceOfString · 27/07/2021 08:42

@Italianmeringuebuttercream

I'm so envious! I've been plucking mine since I was a teen, now mid 40's and they are as string and prolific as ever! I blame my dad, he has immense eyebrows.

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