Kids sharing rooms on holiday

[Mollylikestodance]

Hello,

My kids aren't at this age yet, but looking to the future....

What do you all do with mixed sexed pre-teen siblings on holiday?

I have a girl and a boy, 3.5 year age gap (girl is older).

I know the recommendation is from 10 years old separate bedrooms - which is absolutely fine for home, they are in their own rooms already. But what about holidays? Or weekends away? And did you start this strictly from when the eldest was 10?

WDYD?

Thank you so much
x

[dementedpixie]

That recommendation is for social housing I think. Mine still shared rooms on holiday at that age.

[DartmoorChef]

That recommendation is relating to overcrowding in council accommodation.

There are no laws on sharing. And on holidays its perfectly normal for kids to share rooms regardless of their age/sex.

[EvilOnion]

There's no set rule, it's what you and yours are comfortable with.

We have a boy(15) and girl(8) who've only just got their own rooms and we couldn't afford to get separate rooms on holidays so we share. It's really not a big deal - get changed in the bathroom.

[skeggycaggy]

As above, that recommendation is so that families living in social housing are adequately housed by the council. It has absolutely no bearing on holiday accommodation for a private family.

I shared rooms on holiday with my brothers (2.5 years & 5 years apart) my entire life. In fact I shared a room with one brother just 6 months ago. My kids will share too - I have 3 kids, not going to have 3 rooms on holiday in order to split boys from girls!

[SorryPardonWhat]

My two (DD age 12 DS age 8) used to choose to share on holiday. But this year my DD has started needing her privacy so that's what we do. If they still wanted to share I'd let them though.

[dementedpixie]

The last few years we have gone to a villa so everyone had their own room but prior to that they shared

[moochingtothepub]

I shared with my brothers until I stopped going with my parents

[battleaxe2000]

I have a Dd (14) and Ds (17), I try to get accomadation with some of their own space. So single beds far apart in a large room or bunks. We sail quite a bit, then everybody has their own cabin. Although they shared a 2 man tent in Summer 2019. Usually try to get twin beds...

[Aprilshowersandhail]

Surely sharing is part of the fun? This year my dd will be 32 and will be sharing bunks with ds 6! Their choice!! Dd's usually share... 31, 15 +14!!( Ds's 26 and 12 sharing also)!!
Sadly I get stuck with dh every holiday!
Nobody like a snorer!

[user1493413286]

I’d have them share and when they’re at the stage of wanting privacy they have the bathroom to get ready in.

[Scarby9]

At that age on holiday we always shared rooms - often a family room with parents too.

[Love51]

I was 23 and married last time I shared a room with my brother.
For the avoidance of doubt, I was married to someone else.
In my 20s me, my husband and a friend also shared a family room in a hotel. We changed in the bathroom.
You cut your cloth to match your purse. My purse didn't extend to separate rooms til I was older.

[MyOtherProfile]

Mine shared til last summer when they were 12 and 14. This year they won't share but if it was just a weekend somewhere I might still make them share.

[2bazookas]

On holiday its perfectly normal for mixed age and mixed sex siblings to share a room.

[Aprilshowersandhail]

Dd 31 shared a small holiday let with her dbs 17,19 and 26 last year.. Spent hours playing hide and seek apparently!!
We were in a cottage along the road...
Heard after the event but ds 26 nearly fell out of a window.... They had rocked up past dark and hadn't realised the place was up on high stilts!

Some people just never grow up!

[Hopeislost]

On family holidays when my brother and I were teenagers, I used to share a room with my mum and my brother shared a room with my Dad.

[Thebookswereherfriends]

Yep, me and my brother shared a room until we no longer went away with our parents. It just meant you got dressed in the bathroom.

[HeddaGarbled]

@Hopeislost

On family holidays when my brother and I were teenagers, I used to share a room with my mum and my brother shared a room with my Dad

I have family who do this because the teenagers argue too much otherwise.

[Plumtree391]

@DartmoorChef

That recommendation is relating to overcrowding in council accommodation.

There are no laws on sharing. And on holidays its perfectly normal for kids to share rooms regardless of their age/sex.

I agree. It also depends on what the children are happy with. I wouldn't have liked to share with a younger brother when I was fourteen or more but nobody is suggesting that.

[Mollylikestodance]

Honestly, thank you so much everyone for the replies - I really appreciate it!

My sister and I always shared until I stopped going on holiday with my parents. I'd never really thought about it until I read something online about mixed sex kids not sharing after age 10 and thought 'how will we always manage that?!'

It's easier in a cottage/villa/Airbnb when there's choice but it's just not always possible (or affordable) in hotels etc.

This is super helpful, and I guess as long as my kids are happy to share, they will. I think once my daughter reaches an certain age she naturally might not want to and that's fine - we can cross that bridge then.

Thanks again,
xx