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Parenting a preteen can be a minefield. Find support here.

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Parenting a preteen can be a minefield. Find support here.

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Any one else's kid moody as hell

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Whatwouldscullydo · 12/02/2021 20:43

Shes 10 and shes driving me nuts. One min she's happy and chatty next minute you'd think I'd bitten the head off a puppy...

Nothing major , I don't think there's anything wrong wrong, shes probably just had enough of being unable to go anywhere, who hasn't....and of course being glued to screens doing work which of course always makes behaviour/mood worse in kids. Just a general rant 🤣

Come join me if you want to scream and drink wine

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loveisagirlnameddaisy · 12/02/2021 20:44

My 11 yo DD is the same. She's desperate to go back to school and so bored! Nothing I suggest is interesting enough so I've slightly given up trying...

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Whatwouldscullydo · 12/02/2021 20:48

She was In school but the year was closed for a few days... she misses her friends and she used to run around alot at break/lunch. She's taken to skipping in the house

Can't wait til they go back and she can stop growling at me

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HexWitch · 12/02/2021 20:52

I have a 10yo DD too. Exactly the same. She can have a fun day of laughing and playing and suddenly she's in a crappy mood over nothing. I think it's lockdown + hormones tbh.

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Whatwouldscullydo · 12/02/2021 20:56

It doesn't help her hair has become so long and has started getting tangly she hates having to sit and have it brushed for ages and plaited...

They both need taking shopping fir clothes and shoes etc but we obviously can't go and I'm.not faffing about with click amd collects I can't afford to buy multiples just to return what doesn't fit and we aren't going anywhere anyway...

If she was a rat she'd have chewed her own leg off fir something to do

I'm taking bets on what I'm.gonna get in the morning if anyone wants some action...

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HexWitch · 12/02/2021 20:58

Oh yea to the long hair and tangles! That's sure to set my DD off every time!

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Whatwouldscullydo · 12/02/2021 21:03

Shes not had a hair cut since since summer holidays..

Between school work and then lockdowns its been impossible. If it grows much more she will start looking like bloody rapunzel.

I don't know what magic powers boris Johnson has but the second he utters the words "lockdown " both kids grow out of everything they own practically overnight

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TwoZeroTwoZero · 12/02/2021 21:31

Not much to add but I got a tangle teezer for my own long, knotty hair and it goes through it like butter.

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Whatwouldscullydo · 12/02/2021 21:32

We have one. It's stopped working so well tbh.

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ButterflyBitch · 12/02/2021 21:38

Yes 11 year old boy and he’s so up and down it’s ridiculous. He was happy as Larry and then crying because we told him off for taking a chocolate bar out of the snack cupboard without asking. Disclaimer: he has dyspraxia and is emotionally immature and I’m also convinced is mildly on the spectrum. But still, lockdown, no friends, no school. He’s suffering. They’re all suffering.

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Whatwouldscullydo · 12/02/2021 21:41

Emotionally immature...that sums dd up too.

Its hell on earth this whole thing isn't it...

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Gcnq · 13/02/2021 08:08

I don't know what magic powers boris Johnson has but the second he utters the words "lockdown " both kids grow out of everything they own practically overnight

So true 🤣

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Gcnq · 13/02/2021 08:10

Mine is 6. He's probably developing behavioural problems because of all this he hadn't done any of his swimming/sports clubs/trampolining/ anything other than Lego in his bedroom on his own, since before last April

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Whatwouldscullydo · 13/02/2021 09:16

This must be what they call cabin fever...

They all need to be back. If you did this to a pet, they'd probably call the rspca on you..

Shes just woken me up for her breakfast.... wish me luck..

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Whatwouldscullydo · 13/02/2021 09:47

Aaaannnnd shes in chatty mode..I've Not finished my coffee yet 😬 its gonna he a loooong day

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Whatwouldscullydo · 13/02/2021 17:32

I've been stuck playing games alllllll day...

I want wine....

I never want to see battleship ever again

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dozydoo · 13/02/2021 17:55

I've got ds10, dd1 (8) & dd2 (4)
the youngest is fine, but ds & dd1 are awful!

Their modos change more than their underwear, they've both been in school due to keyworkers, but bloody hell!

Ds has always been emotionally immature & I swear he's getting worse, I've been asking for years for the school to look at assessing him, but everyone just keeps saying he's fine & will get over it! He has little things he has to do, he licks his fingers constantly (gross even when there isn't a bloody pandemic!) & he has to rub his fingers/hands really hard on everything, especially textured surfaces, he has no common sense at all & & he tantrums like a toddler over EVERYTHING, & it's all just getting worse!

Dd1 is very emotionally mature, but her mood swings are killing me, she can be so loving one minute, sat on my lap, the next I am the worst person/thing ever & she hates me, for no reason, I get the same response if I ask her to do anything too!

This has all gotten a lot worse since lockdown! I now dread being at home with my kids!

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Whatwouldscullydo · 13/02/2021 19:27

Sounds tough dozy

Sending your way!

I can sympathise with the tantrums, akd the mood swings, I guess with little in their lives right now ( let's face it even when at school over half their friends are still missing) everything is such a huge deal...

Theres just nothing to look forward to and there's no point in anything any more as farbas they are concerned I expect.

And we are the only thing they have to work their feelings out on...

Dd2 has gym amd swimming usually,,

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permanentlyexhaustedpigeon · 18/02/2021 11:21

Thank you thank you thank you for starting this thread - I'm at my wits' end with DD 10.

She normally goes horse riding every week - not open.
Likes swimming and ice skating - not open for the last year (our local pool was closed to everyone apart from adult gym members in the summer too)
School has been online since Christmas. Again, at school her teachers have always praised her enthusiasm for learning - now she does the bare minimum and won't read a word in her 'own time' without a fight.

Literally the one and only thing that makes her happy is chatting to her friends online while playing Roblox, and any attempts to tempt her out of the endless screen time result in a massive sulk at best or a massive hissy fit at worst. She's stopped washing (without a long argument that gets worryingly close to a screaming fit), barely gets dressed, and if I have the temerity to suggest that, just maybe, we could get the paints out, bake something (again, things she really enjoyed before) or, you know, spend time away from a screen, it's as if I've asked her to unblock the toilet with her bare hands. Of course the idea of going for a walk is about equivalent to being shoved down a mine, and as for chores/ healthy eating/ exercise.. (or opening windows. Why is fresh air such a problem?)

This isn't her. I'm being an extremely lazy parent, of course, but since taking away the screen means a) she can't do schoolwork or have any contact with anyone her own age and b) I can't do any work, it isn't practical.

Fuck this shit, really.

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Loopyloututu · 18/02/2021 11:24

I hear ya! My 9yo dd is terribly grumpy atm alternated with her usual lovely, huggy self. She has already started to develop though (getting small boobs, hairs, B.O., greasy nose) so I suspect that has something to do with it combined with the overuse of iPad/gadgets. I’m really worried she’s going to start her period early - she still so babyish

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Loopyloututu · 18/02/2021 11:27

Literally the one and only thing that makes her happy is chatting to her friends online while playing Roblox

Exact same here, that and minecraft - except she keeps on having massive fights with her brother about him and his mates “stealing her stuff”. It’s so stressful - I ended up just turning it off yesterday, I’d had enough!

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Whatwouldscullydo · 18/02/2021 11:31

loopy I can really relate to that! Difficult when she still likes company in the bath sometimes and you are trying to remind them about privacy without trying to make them ashamed of their body and wants happening to to.Its either huggy/lost puppy or kicking off over getting dressed. I've had so many baths as it's the only way to be left alone and I dont want to give the screens back yet.

pigeon love the name we have been following a pair in our tree. How exciting are our lives sorry to hear you are having a hard time too. I'm so unbelievably bored and it must be a million times worse for the kids. I do fear for the long term damage to their education and their well being this is having. Even trying to make it as fun as possible its no substitute for friends amd the routine akd security of school.

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HexWitch · 18/02/2021 15:52

@Loopyloututu

I hear ya! My 9yo dd is terribly grumpy atm alternated with her usual lovely, huggy self. She has already started to develop though (getting small boobs, hairs, B.O., greasy nose) so I suspect that has something to do with it combined with the overuse of iPad/gadgets. I’m really worried she’s going to start her period early - she still so babyish

I could've written this about me 10yo and she started her period last week which she handled quiet well. I, on the other hand, had a good cry to myself that night because she's still so little

But it does explain the moodiness I suppose. She's really only happy when she's on FaceTime with her friends playing Minecraft or Roblox.

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Whatwouldscullydo · 18/02/2021 15:57

Aw hex

I'll add you to the guest list for that wine.

I'm.glad your dd handled it well. It's a mine field of trying to prepare them, not freaking them out and making sure they know all the options without overwhelming them.or appearing too full on. If she handled it well then you obviously did OK.

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Loopyloututu · 18/02/2021 16:12

I could've written this about me 10yo and she started her period last week which she handled quiet well. I, on the other hand, had a good cry to myself that night because she's still so little

Aw bless you, il probably cry too! Was your dd prepared at all Hex - had you discussed periods etc with her do you mind me asking? I’ve bought my dd the Usborne book “what is happening to me” but when I tried to read it with her she got annoyed and said she’d rather read her cat book so I just left it in her room! I feel like I don’t really know how to approach it..it’s hard.

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HexWitch · 18/02/2021 16:38

We've talked about it openly for a couple of years and her 11yo friend recently started so DD had kept saying I wonder if I'll get mine soon. They've talked about it too which is good, plus I always have pads in. I have an older DD so this isn't my first rodeo on that score. She was 12 when she started though which felt about right. 10 still seems so little! I'm going to get her some modibodi period pants that I only found out about thanks to threads MN! Might get some for myself too.

I'll take you up on that wine @Whatwouldscullydo

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