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How to stop ds constantly repeating the same phrases

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Harmarsuperstar · 07/01/2021 17:29

I'm at the end of my tether with ds. He's 12 and for most of the time he responds to anything I say to him with one of about 4 or 5 phrases, on of which is 'yer mum' and another is 'didn't ask'
It's doing my head in, tbh, and when I ask/tell/order him to fucking stop it, he tells me to calm down Angry
Please help me Smile

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Sweetpea1532 · 07/01/2021 19:20

@Harmarsuperstar
Oh, Harmar....I would have been your worst nightmare when I was a teen...so I'm not much help!
I think my parents just ignored it and before long I was on to the next irritating phraseGrin
At least they didn't have to put up with me all day like you are having to do with DS because of the lockdown.
Have you tried noise cancelling headphones?🤣
Oh, and just love his response to your agitation...unfortunately isn't that just a male phrase that they all use when women get a little agitated at something they are doing? I think it is just genetic tbh...at least it is in my houseHmm

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Harmarsuperstar · 07/01/2021 19:25

I'm sure I used to do the same thing when I was his age too, karma is a batch, eh Grin
Yeah maybe I need to make a concerted and consistent effort to ignore it. I end up cycling through ignore/neutral/laughing along/exploding
And the calm down thing is absolutely a male minimising tactic and that's why it annoys me so much AngryAngry

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Harmarsuperstar · 07/01/2021 19:25

Thanks for replying btw Sweetpea Smile

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Hermanfromguesswho · 07/01/2021 19:28

Can you take up the phrases. Use them a lot for a few days and it’ll hopefully take the coolness away!!

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PurpleMustang · 07/01/2021 19:28

Oh just to say good luck. This is only the start of it. Wait for the lectures they give you that they pass off as conversation were they are always right hahaha

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Harmarsuperstar · 07/01/2021 19:29

@Hermanfromguesswho

Can you take up the phrases. Use them a lot for a few days and it’ll hopefully take the coolness away!!

Good idea! I will try this. Hopefully he won't come up with any replacements. I do do this but occasionally not consistently
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Harmarsuperstar · 07/01/2021 19:31

@PurpleMustang

Oh just to say good luck. This is only the start of it. Wait for the lectures they give you that they pass off as conversation were they are always right hahaha

Ha, thanks! I think I will need the luck. He's already started disagreeing with practically everything I say 😬 i need to remind him of the mark twain quote about how much his father had learnt between twain being 14 and 21
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Harmarsuperstar · 07/01/2021 20:26

Does anyone have any tips on how to encourage him to converse normally for at least some of the time, or am I expecting too much?

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Sweetpea1532 · 07/01/2021 20:57

@Harmarsuperstar
Glad I saw your postplea!
LOL! You are a positive thinker, aren't you...I'm still waiting for that to happen and my DSs are in their 30s

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