10 year old boys... am I alone

[3rdtimemomma]

So my son has not long turned 10

Iv found as he gets older all he wants to do (unless it's outdoors he loves outdoors) is sit and play on fortnight pretty much all day if allowed.
He will say he's bored if I suggest anything else
All his friends seem to do the same in terms of playing on these games so am I being harsh?

I find his life revolves around it and we end up having the backwards forwards arguments and it gets silly, feel like I'm fighting a losing battle.
Constantly having to tell him to talk quietly on it as I can hear it gets very heated but Iv heard "they all do it"

He's doing fine I'm school, isn't rly a naughty boy at all, Infact he's well behaved but when not on the game loves to irritate the other siblings who are younger and ends up winding them all up and then between them there is usually arguments.

I feel like when he's on these games and things his answering back or back chat to me gets worse, is this normal for 10 year olds?

It's not 100 percent of the time and most of the time is fine but it makes me upset when we fall out.

He always says he gets told off due to the other siblings but this is absolutely not the case he finds a lot of excuses instead of realising and looking at his own behaviour sometimes.

Not sure if this is just him growing up and it being "that age"

Any advice or experiences or anyone else have similar situations?

Tia x

If you don't like it take Fortnite away. I don't like them negative impact so dts don't have it anymore.

Just be glad he still goes outdoors.

With the fortnite thing I think it's been worse due to lockdown, when schools were closed it was the only social interaction with friends etc

I don't think it's as simple as take it away. I'm not say to take it away but more ways to go about things a different way.

Or even to know if this is all normal
For a boy of his age also x

The thing is, as he says most of his mates will be on fortnite, so if you take it away he will lose out. DS is the same regards shouting etc but I'd rather he did that and I can hear and intervene if needed than he be silent and I don't know what's going on. We have a 2 hour rule, so he can play for 2 hours then he must come off for at least an hour and do something non tech (otherwise he'd just swap to his Phone or Laptop) I find that often he'll get engrossed in something else and be off for much longer.

It's so tricky isn't it?! My DS10 would be on Fortnite all day if I allowed him. He has set times of the day that he is allowed screen time, never before school in the week and it's always off for an hour+ before bed. Without these limits in place, he is constantly asking to have screen time. I'm just wondering what limits you have?

DS10 mostly gets on very well with his younger sibling but does get a kick out of winding him up 🙄 He doesn't play with toys anymore but spend hours reading or we will play a game together. Otherwise we are outside walking or on a bike ride.

Sounds exactly like my 10yo and his friends they are all shouting and screaming at fortnite or fifa. I think lockdown played a massive part in how much game time he got used too but let's face it there really wasn't much else for them to do.
His friends have now started to play out together after school (when not in lockdown) I find an hour out on his bike with his pals really helps his mood, sometimes I do need to literally boot him out the house and say go and play to get him off the xbox.

Is guess you need to ask your self, what Impact is fortnight having on him and your family? If it's negative, you need to put a stop to it. If it's not negative then there isn't an issue.

Ds13 is limited to playing for an hour or so at weekends because of his behaviour when he's asked to come off.

This is my 10-year-old daughter to a T, but instead of Fortnite she plays Roblox or “Among us” or “Minecraft” (that her ICT teacher very cleverly allowed the kids to download onto their school laptops for “educational reasons” 😒). The problem is all her classmates are on these games and they call each other to play via facetime. Unfortunately, due to lockdown it’s the most social interaction she has with her friends.

I’m just hoping that lockdown ends next year and that her riding stable (she’s massively into horse-riding) allows her to volunteer, so she gets off her phone and can spend weekends outdoors working.

We don’t have fortnite in our house. They play on consoles but it’s limited to 3 hours a week with extra given as rewards by us. I’m strict with it but I see the negative impact it has on them when I allow them to be on it too much.

Mine have it and as others have said, it’s been their main social interaction over lockdown. They are usually out at sports and clubs four nights a week and the eldest’s best friend lives two streets away from us so they usually have a good balance of tech and non tech related interests but it’s all gone out of the window this year. I’m just claiming exceptional circumstances, it’ll all go back to normal soonish, let them take whatever little joys they can find at the moment.

I think regardless of how any of us feel about consoles. This is the norm, we live in a world of tech.

My son is 10, Fortnite is his life. It definitely has been made worse by all these lockdowns as pre Covid he wasn't allowed on the xbox Monday- Thursday as he'd had martial arts twice a week & then he'd go to his dad's for the evening the other 2 days. I definitely became more relaxed over lockdown, especially due to the social side of it. He's really found not seeing friends hard this past year & I'd much rather hear him scream & shout having a laugh then him sit in silence being force to play all day long either with myself or alone as he isn't really into toys if I am honest. Like your son he loves the outdoors but as I am vulnerable & live in a high covid rate hotspot my medical team have told me to really limit how much I go outside & as we live in a flat ots hard to get him out doors. He is pretty good when he's told to come off can't say he males a fuss at all, but he will get annoyed with his younger brother even just walking into the room.

I think unless ots effecting his school work or having a negative impact on him or you all as a family I'd allow him to still play it. Let's be honest this year had been extremely hard on adults, let alone what it's doing to children atm, one minute everything is normal then all of a sudden they've been expected to live a different way of life.

My DS was utterly obsessed with it, but I think it was mainly down to the fact that all his chums were into it. He's now 11 and hasn't looked at it for about 4 months...'it's for kids' apparently! It's as temporary as everything else in life...

My 10yo DS games a lot with friends at the moment, Fortnite and other things, but there is not much else left in their lives is there?

I'm lucky in that he is still in school 8- 5.30 every day. In 'normal times' however he also had his sport taking up most weekends, was choosing to board at school some nights, had his grandparents to see, was out on days out with us. Now... nothing.

DS is like this too. I'm fairly relaxed on weekends about it as long as he gets outside for a couple of hours each day. On weekdays, even though we're home with the schools shut, he's not allowed any games until after 3pm.
I hate fortnite, but he gets to chat and laugh with his pals so I have to let it go.

My DCs aren't into computer games very much as they are SN but to be honest this sounds more like my husband! I'm scared that boys will be boys though I guess.