@Strawberry33 This was one of the greatest failure of the Human Genetic Project. They couldn't find any genes. They made hundreds of studies and came back with an absolute nothing.
If it is genetic, there is a gene. None could be found.
If you say the opposite, that it is genetics, name the gene.
So if it is not nature, why do some traits run in families. Nurture. The home dynamics, the repetition of behaviours or new behaviour as a reflection , which CAN be changed.
I have a genetic disorder, I can name the gene and the variants of the mutations. I read an awful lot about genetics, I am involved in clinical trials , and between what research finds and change in protocols and views, there is a 10-15 years gap.
@Amkotbj How old are your other children? A rewards system is more effective when very little. and later, children should understand that some things have to be done (homework, chores) because they are their responsibility . By centralising all rewards on the PS4 , you make it very important. So it is constantly there, either they use it and are working to get it. There are so many books and medical papers on the impact of screens, it is fascinating.
Children come in all personality, some are quiet, some are not.
You need to consider that a child is constantly told what to do. All day long, when to get up, what to eat, what to wear (uniforms), when to talk, when to move from class to playground, then home again,... you can never do what you want. Day after day.
Imagine for one minute, it was your life, there would be a day in which you feel like rebelling even if only for 3 seconds. It doesn't mean you have a trait, it means you are an individual with a personality .
I work in primary schools as an ethics teacher, which is so fantastic, because I don't deliver a lesson in which pupils have to suffer and endure my talking (and let me tell you some teachers are annoying ) .
The kids do the talking and I am the one listening and the difference is astonishing between the dynamic of the classroom. Even the "naughty" kid or the kids with special needs (we are given a list from teachers) they are so happy to be given the opportunity to be themselves. There is no right or wrong answer.
Everyone is happy in my classes. YEs some kids fidget, and so does my DH. But mentally wise, you see difference of course, but why is it acceptable to have difference in the way we are outside (short, tall, slim, large, blond, dark, large nose, ...) but inside we MUST be one type only. Ridiculous.
Schools expect one type of child only. Who sits still and shuts up for many years. Easy for the quiet ones, a bit hard for the other. IF you add to that the equations the neurological impact of screens, it is even harder.
Give some freedom and space to your DS. What would he like to eat for dinner, you pick. Have a chat with him. Tell him that recently there is much fun in the house, a lot of tension, discussions, and a lot of tensions and discussions around the PS4 and you don't like that and that for two weeks, we will put it in the attic, and I will put my phone/pc in a bag after work and in weekend, and we will use this time to be together and even have fun. HE can decide.
I used to do the reading marathons with mine. We would go to the library and take the max amount of comics, books, stop at the lollies shop and buy a bag each, and spend 2 hours in my bed al together, reading books about jokes, heroes, and no I didn't care about the sugar because it was once per month.
In my experience, you can't reduce addictions, so having less PS4 could bring more discussions, than none of it. But every family is different.
Covid of course, makes everything so much mire complicated.