“Uniform” for 9 year old DCs

[WinniePig]

Do any mums have any unwritten rules regarding their DCs’ clothes, i.e. what they wear? Have just charity shopped and Ebay-ed a load of DTs’ clothes as they have grown out of everything. In a position to start again with wardrobe but want to be sensible and buy things that will last, go together, be suitable for all kinds of weather etc. I think I’m trying to pull together a sort of weekend / after school uniform. Thinking skinny jeans, long sleeved t-shirts, hoodies / jumpers and boots. Anyone else do this?

Does anyone actively avoid buying stuff? I can get quite distracted in Next sometimes and end up buying stuff which doesn’t go with anything else. I think I just need to say no to skirts, shirts, novelty stuff and stick to basics.

At 9 surely they want to have some say themselves in their clothes/style?

I try and buy certain colours so know everything will mix and match. I also know now which set items they'll need each year so I wouldn't say I waste too much.

If you want to make sure most of her clothes match stick to plain trousers and go with any top but surely she should be having some choice in what she wears at that age

My nearly 9 year old DD wears an awful mix of colours and styles. I bite my lip and say nothing as long as her clothes are clean and weather appropriate. Feel it's all part of her developing her own identity and becoming more independent.

I don't buy clothes for her anymore without her input unless it's basics like white t-shirts or school stuff.

Their 9 let them choose themselves.

Sports fabric leggings, oversized tees and hoodies with huge trainers for dd3 aged nearly 10. Same with denim shorts every day in warm weather. It’s a joy to have a uniform but she does only have it because she gets in a tizzy with too much choice. The others had and wore a chaotic selection of every sort of clothing going.

Mine mostly wears jeggings or leggings with a long sleeved top at this time of year but she also has various jumpers/fleeces and a couple of dresses. Just one skirt iirc. Recently she asked for black skinny jeans, which I bought from H&M.

Forgot the question about rules - I tend to stick to a certain colour palette pinks, blues, black, purple and occasional green. Mainly because I like those colours but it does mean that things tend to match. Obviously if they choose something themselves then I don't restrict the colour but I tend to choose most of the basics.

For my 9yo DD the rule seems to be Black. Other dark colours if she likes the item.

My 7yo prefers to look like a rainbow. The more colours, the better. On the plus side, she's hard to lose when out.

Neither like jeans much. Especially skinny jeans. Too restrictive.

Thanks everyone. DD just wants to wear crop tops and tarty tat from River Island. I think I’m going to set some parameters and she can choose from within them (skinny jeans, leggings, long sleeved tees, hoodies and a decent coat and boots). I just find it so galling when you spend a reasonable amount of money on clothes and nothing goes together and DD ends up looking scruffy. I also want to buy the bare minimum and have a capsule wardrobe that works.

Hi everyone I'm really stuck here, my 9 year old daughter is happy I'm obviously buying her clothes when needed, my sister has a 8 year old girl and she has a pair of wet look leggings for a 8 year old, this was before lockdown, me and my daughter went to see my sister & her aunt we all went out for a lunch and my 8 year old neice had a pair of wet look leggings on, what age are they suitable for as my sister had a pair on.

I think if she's wanting stuff you think is age inappropriate then you need to work out basic rules that still allow her choice. I'm lucky my DDs have never really wanted to wear anything I didn't like (DD1 is all skinny jeans, DMs and checked shirts in muted colours, DD2 loves patterned leggings and hoodies, shorts in summer).