11 year old dd is messy. She leaves stuff behind her as she goes without thinking and I'm getting really fed up. Dh thinks I'm over the top 'she's just a kid' and that I take it personally.
I think she's old enough to tidy up after herself and can do it if there's something in it for her.
Yesterday I warned her I was going to be in her room cleaning the windows, polishing and hoovering.
Came in this morning and it's not perfect but it's pretty good. Until I couldn't shut the wardrobe doors. When I've looked she's shoved a load of clean/ironed washing into the back of her wardrobe. She knew I'd look on the floor of the wardrobes so these are shoved over the rail and onto the back of the coat hangers.
I'm raging. I've dragged them all out and left them in a huge pile on her bedroom floor.
I'm not doing anything with them.
Told Dh (who is away) that I'm going to take her phone off her and ground her tomorrow night when she will normally go for a walk with her two friends.
I've told dh he needs to back me on it but he's likely to say I'm being too harsh on her.
Am I?