Porn and inappropriate comments at school

[Barleysugar1]

After some advice really from other preteen mums. My son is 11 and recently started secondary school. One of the boys is regularly talking about and showing the other boys porn - I know it's a normal part of experimenting and understanding life but he's been doing this since year 5 (aged 9). I raised it with primary school but never knew if they said anything to his parents. I know I'm strict where technology is concerned and know others might be more liberally minded but would porn at 9years old be causing an alarm bell for you? Tonight my son has said the same boy is still always talking about sexual stuff and has been boasting that he's had sex with his sister 😳 Boasting about sex is one thing but to think it's OK that it's his sister?? Where has he even got that idea from?? What's going on? I'm considering raising it with school but worried I'm overreacting? Your thoughts would be appreciated 😊

I don't know but sex with his sister is a really weird thing to say! It would worry me definitely.

I would be ringing the school with your concerns..

If it were just porn I'd say it's totally shit, but maybe just pervy pre-teen boys. RE the sex with his sister part I'd say ring the school, as it's a safeguarding worry! He might be being abused, over-sexualisation is quite a common symptom in young people who are being abused :(

Very worrying. I'd definitely raise the issue with school.

All of it is very wrong.
Report your concerns to the school. The boy will not know it is your son who has passed it on.
It sounds like the poor boy is in a very abnormal situation to be saying things like that:

I have reported child abuse via school before. They said I may have had to give a statement but in the end I didn't. Ss visited the family.

I would contact the school first thing in the morning. Sounds like a serious incident and a child or children are at risk 👀

Always talking about sexual stuff and saying that he's had sex with his sister is definitely safeguarding territory.

You should be able to find out the name and email of the safeguarding lead from the school website.

Please contact the safeguarding lead at the school tomorrow.

Did you report it OP?