Dd calling all the shots.

[malificent7]

Dps mum died( not dds gran.) Dd was upset that we would have to go to help dp as she " would miss her friends,"
She loves her group of friends but she pines for them when she is apart. She has missed them this lockdown but seen a few.
I am now with dp...duneral not for another 2 weeks. Dd wants to go back home for a week and see friends.
I don't mind and neither does dp but id rather stay with him and help him sort the house. Dds step sister is hete but no othet kids.
I just feel so resentful that i will have to leave dp for a week so dd can see her friends. She is 12 and shouldn't call the shots. I also feel torn. I want dd to have a bit of a a summer. If i go home for a week, dp will be fine and we will go back to see him a week before the funeral. I will have to suck it up wont i? Her mental health is important buf my mental health is shit as i feel that i am always compromising what i want to do for dds "friends". I feel like i am a walking cash machine, chef and taxi for her.

Funeral

Tbh I wouldn't go, it's one week and there's a good reason your with your DP and supporting him. She can cope for an extra week.

How far is home? Does she have any family or friends she could stay with for a week or so?

I would be saying no to dd.

Is her Dad around ? Could she stay with him ?
If not , stick to what you want to do , sometimes we can't always do what we want. Someone close to her has lost someone , we should be helpful and kind. I know she's young , but old enough to understand the situation.

She'll only call the shots if you let her.

Don't.