Had a lovely week now back to square one!

[Mummypig2020]

I feel so fed up.

We came back from a week away yesterday, the week away was amazing. We had no internet and we all bonded massively. We had so much fun and my 12 year old girl was a completely different child. She was loving, happy and funny.

The minute we pulled up she went in a mood to go straight on her phone to play roblox. She didn’t come downstairs from 7pm until 12pm the next day. She’s been eye rolling, huffing when Iv asked her to do something. Just generally horrible to me again. I have cried today. I feel so deflated. I’m sick of roblox but I also feel so bad if I say she can’t go on it. I went into her room this morning and the first thing she said was how happy she was about the game.

I don’t know what to do. I loved spending time with everyone and I felt so less depressed and anxious.

Now it’s back to square one.

Iv said we can watch something tonight as a family and she’s declared she doesn’t want too and she wants to stay in her room on her phone.

That's sounds so hard! Have you tried speaking to her at a neutral time about her behaviour and how it effects the atmosphere in the house? Honestly, I think I would be honest and firm with her. Explain that her behaviour needs to improve or else she will have a reduction in her permitted phone use. How many hours is she on her phone each day? Is she allowed it all night?

Hi. I have the exact same problem with my 9 year old. We are away on holiday atm visiting relatives. We made her leave the phone at home although she has the tablet. Mostly she has been better but she has retreated to her room with roblox every day. If we are not at the pool, she is in her room. She doesn't eat well, it is Roblox, Roblox, Roblox. I tried to ban it, but my husband let her back on it.

I often take the phone away when at home, but always while she sleeps. If I do it in the daytime and she sees me, she gets angry and shouts, screams and tries to take it back, with force. Given my 9 yr old is 5 ft 6, only an inch shorter that myself, it is something I avoid.

A friend had a child similar to her and claims she grew out of it by 14 and was now an absolute pleasure. I think when school reopens, we are going to have to ban roblox for good.