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10 year old boys increasing volatile

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decisionsinsandouts · 21/06/2020 20:31

My son who will be 11 in a few months is having angry outbursts. This is normally happening when we go over his homeschooling and he has made an error or he is not understanding a concept. He will shout and say the answer is wrong and that he is correct. When he reacts like this it is difficult to engage with him without the anger spiraling. I attempt to approach corrections in a lighthearted friendly manner but he constantly reacts as if he is being accused of something. We have talked about the benefits of learning from learning mistakes and features of a growth mindset etc and he seems to understand this and want to behave accordingly but it is not happening.
When there is a delay with the internet or when he is asked to get organised more quickly his reaction is angry, defensive, and verbally aggressive. We have been going to the park regularly and he has been having a lovely time playing with two friends in a fairly responsible socially distant manner, We have been spending hours outdoors now that the weather is good. When it is time to leave I preempt this by giving 10 minutes notice but when we leave he will go very, very slowly, and then have a public tantrum when told to hurry along.
I find it incredibly difficult and have lost my cool with him on several occasions.
I wonder if anyone has any recommendations: books, online resources, or the like which might give pointers or advice on what for me is a very challenging situation.
I have made allowances and been supportive of my son especially during this COVID crisis and am very much aware that life is extraordinary.

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decisionsinsandouts · 21/06/2020 20:35

Title should be increasingly volatile

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decisionsinsandouts · 09/07/2020 21:08

I haven't had a response under this preteen section and would be grateful for some feedback. I realize it is not a solution on its own but I am keen to find a book that is written with my child's age group in mind which gives relatable, realistic ideas on managing and responding to difficult feelings .....anger, frustration, ?

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