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Sexual Behaviour

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VikingQueen93 · 01/06/2020 03:02

Hi all, I'm new to the site. I have a 10 year old son. Recently I discovered that my son has been searching for sexual images on the Internet, I have all the safety settings on his phone so he is unable to actually see anything, but it still concerned me. I sat him down and spoke to him about what he was trying to look at and I explained to him that he is far too young to be looking at things like what he was searching for. He said that he understood and that he wouldn't try to search for it again. Tonight I looked through his phone again to make sure he wasn't doing anything he shouldn't be, and I found Internet searches again and also found that he has taken photos of his private parts and taken a short video of himself humping one of his teddies. Now I'm not worried that he may have sent these pictures/videos to anyone because he doesn't have the means to do so, he doesn't have any talking apps or credit to send texts ect, so I know he hasn't sent them to anyone. But I'm concerned about him taking the pictures and videos. Is this something I should talk to him about? Or do I say nothing as he isn't able to send these images to anyone? Is he only taking the photos and videos for himself to look at? I know that masturbation is normal for his age, but how do I handle this particular situation? Any help or advice is very much appreciated.

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sleepismysuperpower1 · 01/06/2020 10:25

I think I would take the phone away for a while since he has been told not to search for the images before, but I would explain why you are doing so before you do it. I would also have a talk with him about why private parts need to stay private, and you shouldn't take photos of them incase someone else sees them. There was a similar netmums thread that came up whilst googling on the photos topic, I will link it below. All the best x

MashedSpud · 01/06/2020 10:29

I’d take his phone and replace it with a non smart phone.

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