Too young for the truth?

[Felic23]

Hi I'm just looking for other people's opinion pls.

So background is my ex has my Son 1/2 nights a week. He was stopped from seeing my Son 2 years back as he had a mental breakdown, was sectioned was traumatic for everyone involved. He smokes a lot of weed, this probably led to the breakdown.

Fast forward he has got a lot better, working and generally on top of things.

Now he has been furloughed and has been smoking heavily again I suspect he never stopped but it never showed.
Im really worried this may cause more problems for him and my question is should I be honest with my Son? He is 11 years old and has just started talking about drugs ( lessons at school)
My Son is very smart ambitious and I dont want to tell him his Dad who he looks up to is a addict. I have no idea if he might suspect himself and he has started askimg questions like ' why would anyone take drugs' ect. Any advice is much appreciated and sorry for being an essay! :)

I would personally talk to him yes but in an age appropriate manner . My mum told me stuff about my Dad when they split up when I started asking questions , I was about 10 when she told me about his drinking etc

@GaaaaarlicBread thanks for your reply. I think I may have to tell him. Its just so sad as he thinks so highly of his Dad :(

Hey OP - hope you don't mind the hijack, can i ask how this conversation went? One of my best friends is in a similar position with her 12yr old DD.

@SomeoneElseEntirelyNow hey I havent had the conversation yet :/ im waiting for my Son to see if he asks me any more questions or to see if he becomes aware of whats happening with his Dad. The conversation will come but im still not sure how im gonna deal with it or how honest to be?! Good luck to your friend :)