My daughter is driving me crazy

[Elektringa]

Hi All.
My 7 year old is driving me crazy. She had some make up to play which we took away because of her behaviour ( swearing, hitting). So now I keep finding her going into my make up. Which I started to lock. I had to hide my nail varnish. But just now I found she was using nail glue, no idea for what. I had to bin that as its glued up and can't open the bottle.
Issue is - she only talks about how she looks, clothes, make up, nails..I understand she might be into fashion, make up..but she is 7. And I would like to slow that down. Its really worrying..she will take my high heels and play for hours which is fine apart from her behaviour..she will talk like a teenager, or shake her ass like........have no words..
Started watching Sam and Cat on netflix as other things are too childish. She sneaks dads phone and watches youtube - how to stick fake nails..etc.. the language used in youtube is horrible..
Her room carpet is all damaged by glue, and other staff.
I think I am really struggling mentally now. She does not want to do homework alone and I am struggling to help as I have to work from home and have a toddler under 2, loads of conference calls. Dad is at work during the day.
How to talk to her? I am starting to lock things or hide, but she keeps finding them and being so excited as she found them..

You are the parent. Put a passcode on phones so she can't get on them. Take away her access to Netflix so she can only watch it with an adult present. Totally ignore what she's doing when she plays with your shoes. Hide nail glue. It must be very hard for you if you are working from home with 2 children. Could you maybe do a bit of work with her in the evening when your OH gets home? She might enjoy the one on one time with only you. Her behaviour sounds like attention seeking to me. Good luck.

I think it is attention seeking. How I did not think to change phone passcodes!!! Omg thank you.. when we spend time with her one on one she is very nice.. we go for a walks in evening just she and me and she is brilliant.. at home is the oposite..I will do my best.
With netflix, I really need her to be in her room sometimes and not to disturb me for an hour.. I will talk with my husband how we will approach this as I know tv has a passcode as well, need to find it though.

The crappy American kid shows have a lot to answer for! The behaviour and attitudes in those are atrocious.
I've stopped my daughter from watching them.

Did you know you can ban shows on Netflix now? You might want to block that one, she'll never know!

help.netflix.com/en/node/264

Sam and cat aren't that bad it's what she is picking up from the show that is the problem.

So if she liking the show remind her that they are one older than her, two it's the activities they do in the show, like singing song, helping friends etc not just putting on make up.
Because simply banning it will just cause up roar.
What can she do to gain back her make up bits that's are age appropriate?
She needs to also learn that it is inappropriate and unacceptable for her to take other peoples things, not just because it's dangerous- nail glue can burn through fabric but it's not good behaviour.

I've stopped my granddaughter from watching certain programmes on Netflix and also horrid Henry. Some of the American ones are awful.

Thank you..I just looked at netflix account and found how to block certain shows..I never knew it exists!!! No more sam and cat, brilliant. Thank you.

She once told me that she learned all those things from youtube and sam and cat...so I am looking at blocking it all.

Please don't take this the wrong way, I mean it to be helpful.

Do you not think that blocking/removing all the things your daughter likes will push her further away?

Some kids just mature quicker than others. My daughter has always lived make up and had grown into the Sam and Cat/Jessie type shows by 7. She had no interest in Nick Jr or Disney Jr at that age. We just explained to her what was and wasn't appropriate and drove home the fact it was a tv show, and not real life

What would you prefer your daughter to be doing or watching? You can't hinder her maturing. If that's what she's in to, then it's what she's in to

Hi roking.
I agree, but it also depends on every single child. I really never minded her playing with make up or watching Sam & Cat, but it came to the point that she started talking like they, acting.. swearing on us,and in totall attitude and behaviour just horrible. Putting on make už and showing off, but not in like inosent playing way, but she went over the board.
To tell the truth I took them all and gave back but now thats it...and her behaviour is much better! She is allowed to watch movies, etc. I am checking what she is watching, and some movies are really teenager ones but better than sam& cat.
Of course I do not want to take away something that she is a lot inti, but with make up I dont regret taking it away for now..it will come time and she will havebit back..maybe when she is 15ish..depends.will see. She have nice clothes, and now I bought some trendy shoes she can wear, but still be a child. This week been so much better, and just because we took things away, she calmed down in one way. She knows there is no phone she can sneak out to her room as all passwords are changed. She started finding other activities.