10 year old and leg hair

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My DD is 10, soon to be 11, so going into high school in September.
Last summer she got really upset about the hairs on her legs, she is very hairy, although they aren't really dark.
I wondered if everyone else has come across this and what you have done?
I don't really want to start shaving it, I just think once you start that's it, no going back, always prickly/dark hairs.
I've bought the Philips lumea, but now I'm not sure if she is a contender for this with her leg hairs being lightish.
Any advice appreciated.

Cissyandflora thanks, it's just a bloody faff being a women isnt it!
Chanel05 I am, I only wanted some friendly advice!
I was exactly the same, dry shaved, cut my legs to shreds and also my thumb. I kept it all a secret from my Mum, that's why im trying to be open with her 😊

People are being horrible to you - what's going on!!?!!?!

I would have a look at the new trendy shaving sites such as Grumm they make no nonsense unisex products - and are fairly cheap and get her a basic razor and some shave gel / bar and show her how to shave safely.

Creams gels and other products are a bit of a pain if you ask me and with shaving you can leave your hair to grow if you like or shave it off as you wish .

knackeredmumoftwo thank you, today we have decided to concentrate on her being a child, trampoline built, suns out, chill time.
We have discussed our options and have decided that when the time comes up again, we have a better idea what to do. I'll certainly look into what you have recommended though 😊

OP
I think a ladyshave is a good idea as it's less scary for her than a razor. Or the silky mits xx

wildthingsinthenight thanks, I can see it being an expensive summer! 😂😂

I used to cut my legs a lot
I now use Wilkinson sword intuition have done for years and never cut myself on that
It's the one with the built in bar so you don't need to use shaving gel
I get your point my mum decided that women didn't shave and I got bullied relentlessly hence the fact I cut myself shaving so much !
But would defo recommend giving it a go

My Mum was quite old fashioned razey, she didn't really tell me about periods or anything like that.
I'm trying to be more open with my DD

Jeez, she's 10. Can't she leave the hair be? Can't you leave it be?

Yeah @gnushoes. Just let her be bullied. She's only ten. FFS. Honestly, I don't know what goes through some parents heads. Just leave her to be bullied because you think it's too young? Do you not remember being ten?

I remember some twin girls at age 11 who were nicknamed The Bushwhackers (after the wrestlers) because their parents hadn't spoken to them about bikini line hair before sending them to school swimming lessons. Kids are horrible.

Hi! I had been meaning to write to you this morning when I saw this
I am hairy and it still affects my confidence massively
My mum used an epilators on my legs when I was about 10 and it hurt so much. I was literally clawing the carpet
But the relief I had after
I vividly remember wearing pedal pushers
And feeling great
When the hairs grew back I cried my eyes out
She told me not to tell my dad and I could have it done once for holidays
It was the wrong approach

I shave my legs now. I would say you should let her shave her legs. Is there a kids razor?
I remember falling over at school and my sock fell down and someone commenting on my hairy legs and I cried and cried I was so shy.

Please let her shave them she will feel so much better xxx

Someone I went to school with had laser
She needed it on her back and tummy even
She also had her whole life changed

She's 10. If she's bullied for leg hair surely that's victim blaming - that if she conformed to some weird norm for ADULT women at 10 she'd not get bullied.

Yeah @gnushoes. Just let her be bullied.

If she's being bullied, the issue is the bullies, not the leg hair.

My DD has vitiligo. She was briefly bullied for having weird skin. Oddly we dealt with the issue by resolving the bullying, rather than fixing her skin.

I wasn't aware there was a quick fix solution for vitiligo?

I think anyone should be able to grow their hair if they want to. I myself rarely shave any part of my body. I know the pain of bullying though and would never in a million years put my kids through it just because of my own personal opinion on the matter.

And well done for resolving the bullying. How did you manage that exactly? In my vast experience on the subject it's virtually impossible to 'resolve' bullying once it's started.

You're all arguing that removing hair from a child is the right thing to do because of some weird cultural norm. At what age wouldn't it be right? Nine? Eight? Six? Four?

gnushoes I've not said she has been bullied, bullied is a very strong word! I have said people have mentioned it.
I want her to have the confidence to show off her legs, at the end of the day it's her decision!
Also as we know with how trends go, she will want to do what her mates do.
Bless you cultkid, I wouldn't use an epilator on her, we have had a talk today and for now she is happy to leave her legs, whilst there is no school/dance, she wants me to use the cream under her arms again or she can try that herself (even though she said it stinks) I am just presuming that everyone that has been negative on this post has either A never had a child that feels this way or B doesn't have any children full stop. At the end of the day I want my children to be happy and healthy and if it means she removes her leg hair, as she doesn't like it then so be it. Her mental health and how we interact as mother and daughter is the most important thing to me.

Use veet! ! I bet the results would last for ages. It lasts for a week on me and I 've got legs like desperate Dan. Think it would be gentler and better than starting the shaving cycle when she is so young.

There isn't a quick fix solution for vitiligo (we could have used make up to cover it up I guess). I was pointing out that the first response to being bullied (not that the OP has actually said that her DD was being bullied, just that the hair upset her for some reason) should not be to remove the thing that is causing the bullying.

In my not vast experience of bullying, primary schools are actually pretty good at sorting out low level bullying (such as name calling because someone looks a bit different). In our case DD had the confidence to stand up for herself as well so the bullies got bored. It would have been different if it was secondary school but having got used to standing up for herself in primary, it's never been an issue for her as she's got older.

RedskyAtnight I'm glad you managed to resolve the bullying

Bullying is something that can literally ruin lives. It can have life long effect. Change the course of someone's life. It can start with something simple like leg hair or whatever, then once the confidence is knocked and they're a victim it adds on and on.

I'd let my daughter shave at whatever age she asked if she was being teased about it. The same as I'm going to do everything else I can to ensure she fits in with other kids at school.

Ukholidaysaregreat I have been looking at Veet this afternoon, I'm going to give me a legs ago with some 😊

OhLook exactly I was bullied at high school, I was spat on too, it will stick with me forever, I will never let my child go through that, that's why I want this (little issue for some) to be sorted before it knocks her confidence. She is going to an all girl's school and we all know how bitchy girls are!

I know there isn't. That was my point. There is a quick fix for leg hair, so why put your kid through it?