ClaireyF29 · 01/12/2019 09:43
Ok so as I'm writing this my eyes are welling up, my son is 10, 11 in 3 months! I was checking his phone as I do coz he's so young and I came across an internet search from him asking "how to tell your parents your gay" I've never though he was gay as he's only so young...anyways does anyone know what I should do?? Should I speak to him? He's the kind of boy who's very anxious and a worrier! He was in town with his friends yesterday and some other boys were calling them names and saying oh your gay, he came home really upset and was crying but wouldn't tell me what was wrong! Has anyone been in a similar situation?! What do I do?
Ps sorry for the long winded post x
BrokenWing · 01/12/2019 10:48
does he knew you check his phone?
When ds was that age I would always check his phone in his presence, it would be strange/invasive not to, and we would discuss anything that came up there and then. I would not ask him directly if he was gay, but casually ask why he searched and if he doesn't tell you, ask if he is okay and let him know he never needs to worry about telling you anything, you are his mum and always there to listen.
Winterdaysarehere · 01/12/2019 10:52
Maybe watch some TV /music shows with positive gay role models? Discuss...
My ds 19 has' always' been gay according to his siblings. Not something I was looking out for one way or the other!!
He is very happy in his own skin..
If your ds is anxious then imo getting things more out in the open would be good for him. My ds never had any chats. Just had bfs and that was that.
ClaireyF29 · 01/12/2019 13:22
Thank you all for the reply! Yes he knows I check his phone I've always told him I will be Checking it that was a condition of him getting a phone! I don't want to avoid the situation because if he is worried or anxious about it I want to be able to help him! I'm breaks my heart to think that he could be teased for something out of his control! I just need to find a good time to talk to him! I suppose he doesn't have to tell me but maybe knows that I'm supporting him will be enough??
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