Morning,
I need some help and advice. My dd is 12 and she is 13 in April. Her dad and I split when she was 5 and I have always had custody of her. She has a strained relationship with her dad and she only goes round his once a week for tea and often that gets cut short. I’m a shift worker that has to work long hours to pay the bills and so my retired dad does most of my childcare. She was bullied at school last year and that has affected her and so she rarely leaves the house and has a tight circle of friends as she finds it hard to trust people.
Her attitude has got progressively worse, it’s difficult in the morning as she’s not a morning person but she never gets ready for school without haranguing her and she is often late. I am stuck between letting her fail because she won’t listen and the fact that it will affect her education.
Today I have woken up after a particularly difficult late shift and she’s been horrible. It’s taken me 15 minutes to get her up and she’s constantly telling me I’m a nag.
I can’t ground her as she doesn’t go anywhere and currently she doesn’t get any pocket money.
In the grand scheme of things she’s not terrible but it’s putting a strain on me that I don’t need.